Urgent help needed. I am the father of a three year old girl (probably not biologically) who lives with me. The mother and I have NEVER been to court, we were always able to work out our differences (support, and living circumstances). My daughter now lives with me...I have always been there for her but don't have official legal custody. It has now come to light that my ex-girlfriend has recently been in contact with a guy who might be her biological father and might want to get involved after threee years of non involement. I signed the voluntary paternity form and my name has been on the birth certificate since shortly after she was born. Will all this become void if it is found that I am not her biological father and will I lose her even though her mother is unfit (although never been tried for it) and I have been raising her for the past year? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
P.S. New York State law would apply here if anyone needs to know.
2006-11-02 16:16:08 · 6 answers · asked by Brian F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First I have to say....good for you standing up and being a man. Whether you are her father or not.
Second I think that if it goes out that you are not the father, they can take her away from you. You will have no legal right to her. Does she look like you? Why not have a test just to find out and not tell anyone your having it done?
2006-11-02 16:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea where you stand legally but wanted to say good luck. Get an attorney and get legal custody on paper. I believe that since your daughter has lived with you for the past year that the court will honor this relationship higher than any other and since you are her legal father there isn't anything anyone else can do about it unless they take it to court.
In Kansas a person has two years to claim paternity but I'm not sure this means they can't do the same after two years.
You need to take this to court. Because even though your daughter has lived with you for a year the mother has equal rights to her and could take her anytime and it would not be considered as kidnapping unless you have legal custody.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 16:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother consented that you were the father on the birth certificate. I highly recommend you getting an attorney if she persists of talk of custody. You need every person that is involved in your personal life to be prepared to testify at a custody hearing. Just because this woman gave birth, does not give her the right to a child. You are raising her, you deserve her.
Be prepared to fight for her!
Even if you are not the sperm donor, you are her FATHER!
In the future, be aware that you may not be around for your daughter if you choose to date someone who is so promiscuous. Diseases my friend :-)
Don't let your heart get in the way of unconditional love. You will always have that from this child :-)
2006-11-02 16:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 04:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in your phone book for LEGAL AID and do it fast they can help ya
2006-11-02 16:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by k_lecureux_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney.
2006-11-02 16:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋