My uncle and his family got involved in a fatal car accident in the highway. Instantly my uncle, his wife and baby boy died but one child (AGE 12) who got injured in the save accident luckily survived. He had been taken to Hospital and now recovering. He did not know that his parents and younger brother already died. So far people are telling him that your parents are also in hospital. But this week he will be released from Hospital and some one need to tell him the truth. Can any one suggest please, how to inform him that they all are dead?
2006-11-02 15:45:57 · 7 answers · asked by just4love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow this is really sad..:(
just let it off easy to him.
tell him that they are in a better place and just make sure he knows that he has people caring about him.
2006-11-02 15:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by blondie_XxX_blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your families loss. The surviving boy is old enough that he should have been told the truth from the beginning. Now not only does he have to deal with the loss of his whole family, but also that his surviving family lied to him. I would tell him before he leave the hospital so that if he does take it badly he can get help. Be very supportive and let him know that you are all there for him. Who ever will be caring for him from now on needs to keep a close eye on him and make sure that he gets any medial help he needs to get through this horrible accident. Be honest with him and keep him talking. I will keep you in our prayers. Good luck to you and your family in this difficult time.
2006-11-02 16:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by monkeedee2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that is harsh. Sorry to say it but he should have been told the truth from the get go. If so he may have gotten some psychological counseling while recovering. Now he has to deal with the shock of going home to his empty house alone all at once. If he had known he would have had time to prepare for this. Pre-teens are stronger than most suspect but being hit with it at once is plain old cruel to him. Whoever decided to lie to him was doing the poor guy no favors - and they will have to live with the deception.
Moving on - he needs to feel security now. Someone has to got to let this kid know that they are there for him and that he will not be alone and that they truly love him and he will not be a burden or intrude on another family. Please, please prepare him for what's ahead. Get him help if he needs it. Put as many mementos in storage as he wants and be patient with him. His whole world was destroyed in a moment. Listen to him when he wants to talk. Let him help plan the memorial ceremonies for his family. This poor boy is going to be extremely lonely and whoever will raise him needs to know that. Just love him! God bless -please do what's right and be honest about this.
2006-11-02 16:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry for this horrible tragedy.
What I read on the Internet is that you must be honest with that child, and encourage him to ask you questions, even if you can't answer them all. The important thing here is that you can create an environment of comfort and openness, so he doesn't feel left alone. Try to make him feel that there's no right or wrong way to feel. Children at that age can start to understand that every human being eventually dies. The best thing you can do is to just encourage the expression and sharing of grief.
Be strong for that child, and he/she'll thank you for the rest of his life.
Best of lucks to you, and don't forget to trust God above all.
2006-11-02 16:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound very weird by telling the word dead.Be prepare for his mental reaction. Someone must be very close to him to tell him this.Use this good terms to tell him. Lord has come, during the accident and He has bring his parent and baby boy to His Kingdom for internal life (tell him the good of internal life) but then this is why he will be left with you people so don't be too sad about it. Make sure that all the others does do mention to him any more in other words. That all prayer: Heavenly Father, thanks You for being with us,Father,You have bring (Your uncle's family name) to Your Kingdom, we seat that You be with (the boy's name) guide him,teach him to be the man of Your servent with all the love from this world. Bless from You,our Heavenly Father that (boy's name) will be the man of your path. In all this,we pray in the name of chirst ,Jesus.Amen. Then bring him to see his parent and yb grave.Follow up with prayer at the graveyard.
2006-11-02 16:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 10:21. And the brother shall grant up the brother to dying, and the daddy the youngster: and the youngsters shall upward thrust up against their mothers and fathers, and lead them to be positioned to dying. He would have meant the deaths led to to the elderly via nationalized wellness care.. In Mark 7:9 Jesus is unquestionably quoting Moses, those are actually not his words yet particularly a recitation of what Moses had in the previous written..
2016-10-03 05:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by bugenhagen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condolences to his family...
you will have to tell him the truth.. tell him that they didn't survive the accident, but their spirit will be with him always, and they all love him very much and wouldn't want him to be deeply depressed about it. also tell him that he must go on with his life and make his parents and little brother proud.
2006-11-02 15:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋