I just recently got out of a relationship in which I was ready to be fully commited and my guy told me he was too scared for that... So now we are just friends, but Im lonely and I miss holding someone at nite and I miss spending my time with someone and I'm ready to have something in my life.. sometimes. So, I think about dating and if a male even asks me to go somewhere I get so overcome with fear and I start thinking I am going to screw up my friendship with my ex by moving on. He isn't dating and I dont know if he even wants to, but I feel like waiting on him because there is a chance that someday he may be ready.. I dont know what to do because I'm tired of being alone but I dont want to be with anyone but HIM!!! And I CANT talk to him about it because he said that if I have feelings for him at all then we cant be friends because he is not willing to hurt me and that I have to be able to handle it because if I'm hurting then he is and he cant handle that. WHAT DO I DO??
2006-11-02 15:45:05 · 12 answers · asked by curiousone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be going on a date or 2. Nothing has to happen on these dates... (or maybe it will???) In the meantime... it MIGHT open up the eyes of your ex! You will certainly know if he is into you after a couple dates.... then again.... you might find out there is no hope, and you can possibly continue being friends, or move on to your Hot New Lover!
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2006-11-02 15:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by cheesytoast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there is no "perfect guy", so if you plan on waiting for one, plan on being single the rest of your life.
Next, move on...your ex either really doesn't want to be in a relationship, or more likely really doesn't want to be in one with you (not wanting to be in a relationship is a common breakup excuse, but often not the truth).
Don't ever "wait" for anyone...this life is too short to let other people dictate your actions...he may never want to be with you romantically again, and how many great guys will you pass up waiting for what never happens with him?
Get closure on the situation with him...take some time to ground yourself and stop feeling so needy and dependent upon having a boyfriend...and when you have learned to be happy with who you are, as a single person, then you will make a better partner for someone else AND be less likely to make a poor choice yourself, because you won't be apt to "settle" just to keep from being alone.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 15:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!!! if he is the perfect guy he will come around eventually. Don't waste your time on something you can't control. Maybe by him telling you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now means that he doesn't want to be with you. Life goes on - there are a million guys out there - one that i'm sure would love to hold you and spend all there time with you. give them a chance!! it can only be for the better.
2006-11-02 15:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl first of all you CAN'T move on being friends with your ex it only causes more pain. I know how hard it is for you and sounds like their is still love there, but you can't move forward with him in your life. Because if you wondering about moving on you would already been trying too. Don't try to rush into other relationships or even date after getting out of relationship, go out with your girlfriends instead! (Have fun and flirt with guys) I know the nights are sad and lonely, but somehow you will move on. Don't wait on him... once he see that your moving on and if he really wants you back he will come back to you. Like they say if he's the one he will come back to you. For now move on and let him see your moving on most likely he will might not like it.. so he might just want you back!
2006-11-02 15:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ex boyfriend of yours ....it is so sure about you ....he know you so much that he is also a little bet gross to tell you things so cold ...anyhow move on .....date again...give yourself a chance to get to know the great person he was with you ...he did not stay ....why he would stay now...because he will miss you ...forget it he have someone else in his mind and he wants to be with that person ...so move on ...I know it is hard at first but in my country we say another nail on the same hole will make the hole smaller ...go an try your best...do not want to feel what is like to have a guy that it's thinking of you all day long and calls you all the time also is crazy to kiss you as soonest he sees you ...come on what you are waiting on!!!!
2006-11-02 15:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is sending you mixes messages and I think you should date other guys and not see him anymore and he not seeing you may change his mind about you . You just can't stay like you are forever you have to move on.
2006-11-02 15:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by reeree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, he is the one who does not want the commitment, you are obviously ready so you should meet someone who is going to give you what you need and deserve...Maybe your ex just wants to be friends because he wants to play the field for awhile..
2006-11-02 15:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait for the perfect guy he is out there somewhere just wait for it to happen?
2006-11-02 16:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by mspencer_46947 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't look perfect for him.
2006-11-02 15:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.........the guy want's space so give it to him, and in the meantime check out some of the chat lines instead.......
2006-11-02 15:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋