My mother in law is 50 years old, she hasn't had a boyfriend in 8 years and was married once.
She married her first husband (my husband's father) after knowing him 9 months and they had a rocky marriage.
Her only boyfriend after her divorce was an alcoholic. She broke up with him after 5 years and hasn't had a boyfriend since.
She has been on two dates in the last 5 years and both men never called her again.
Now she called my husband today and told him she wanted us to meet him this weekend. She also wants to have him meet the family at Thanksgiving.
She has known him for FOUR days!!!
She says he is "perfect" for her: never been married, has no children, has his own house and is an accountant.
We were shocked and felt it was so rushed. I am uncomfortable meeting her boyfriend of 4 days.
Are we overreacting? We want her to have a boyfriend so she stops trying to hang out with us all of the time, but this is way fast!
What do you think?
2006-11-02 15:43:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Meet him....and as long as he treats her well, let her have her fun. She's a grown woman with enough experience in relatioships that you should just bite your tongue and be happy for her.
2006-11-02 15:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so don't see the problem.. she has a right to have a boy friend.. she will always have the right to make her own mistakes.. she is lonely..
did you hide your new boyfriend when you had only seen him for four days.. did you ever think that this guy is doing something that may be making her happy.. maybe she was looking for someone special and this guy is doing what she has been waiting for..
so what go meet the guy.. let her show him off for the holidays.. a little happiness in someones life goes a long way..
Even if it don't work out let her have the happiness as long as she can.. who know she may be hanging out with you again before the end of the year.. so go and meet him.
2006-11-02 23:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's happy & you shouldn't burst her bubble right now. Do you remember what it was like starting a new relationship & the butterflies you felt? That is what she's feeling. In time she will get to know this man, and so will you & your husband. If he turns out to be not so nice then maybe you two can remind her of past relationships, "he seems a little like .... I hope he treats you better than he did", or something like that.
2006-11-02 23:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive. She's an adult and can make her own decisions.
2006-11-02 23:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋