About three week's ago i found out my girl friend of five years was cheating on me. i made her move out the next day with out thinking twice about it. she has been living with a female friend who has done nothing but make her feel cheap and unwelcome, in fact she has told my ex that she has less than a week to find a new place to live. she now has no one to turn to and i feel so bad to see her like this, a once stong person seeming so helpless. what should i do
2006-11-02 15:34:06 · 27 answers · asked by The long Road Home 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. In my opinion, once a cheater always a cherater. If she loved you as much as you love her then there should be no reason to cheat. If shes a strong person, like you said, she'll get through it - and learn from her mistakes.
I think that the most important part of a relationship is trust, how can you trust a person that cheats? Try to look at the bright side. Maybe you both needed a break anyways, to figure out what you both really want and need in your life. Nobody needs (or deserves) to be cheated on.
Everything will work itself out eventually.
2006-11-02 15:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happened to the guy she was cheating on you with? Did he drop her, too? Boy, it sounds like everyone is turning their backs on her. Tough break for her, but she dug that hole, herself. You didn't do it. If you are asking if you should take her back, that would be up to you. Think before you leap, could you ever trust her again? There is always the possibilty of someone seeing the error of their ways and changing, but it would take time and effort on both of your parts.
You don't have to have a relationship with her, you can let her stay with you until she gets on her feet, but make it clear that there is nothing between you two anymore.
2006-11-02 15:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be her friend, but if she doesn't want to stop cheating then you should not be with her no matter how hard it may seem. I was married for 15 years and my ex cheated. Hurt like crazy, and everyone said that it will stop and surely it did. I'm happily married today! Hang in there and be a friend to her but not at the expense of yourself.
2006-11-02 15:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell ya, it's very hard for a male to recover from such a situation as compared to a female. You may be thinking, I will give her another chance? Well it's very hard for a male to trust once that trust has been broken. Take her back as a rent paying friend if you must. I'm sure you are stunned, hurt, and are having your own issues to deal with.
2006-11-02 15:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her. it may be hard to hear but if she can cheat on you she obviously doesn't feel the same way. if you two have been together for this long who knows how many times she has cheated on you before you found out. you deserve better. as for her situation, she needs help, but she did get herself into this situation. if you have to, let her stay with you only until she can find a new place, but do not get emotionally involved. tell her to stay away from you and that she is only there temporarily. dont let her get to you.
2006-11-02 15:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help her out, but there's no reason to allow yourself to be used. If you allow her to move back in, you have to decide if you want to work on the relationship between you, or if you are just going to let her stay until she gets on her own feet.
People who cheat have little regard for the feelings of those they cheat on. If you renew the relationship, I suggest you insist on therapy.
2006-11-02 15:36:38 · answer #6 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) learn to get over her and leave her cheating butt
B) deal with the fact that you will never be good enough for her and deal with her lovers
go for A there is someone out there that can be faithful
2006-11-02 15:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eek.... sad situation.
No one can really answer this without knowing the whole story... even then, only the person or people living it can deal with it...
BUT.... I think I would let her fumble for a bit. Let her find her way without you coming to the rescue... And she will find her way!
It will make her and you alot stronger. Who knows where this relationship will go.... cold become stronger than ever... could end.
Let it fall where it falls....
good luck.
2006-11-02 15:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by cheesytoast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she brought this uppon herself with her behavior,
it's natural for it to hurt to see her like that cause you love her but take in to account what she did and ask yourself this:
1. would she be willing to help you if the situation was reversed?
2. are you going to be able handling helping her without more heartache and stress?
If you can say yes to both of those questions then maybe help her locate a cheap room for rent in the area. or someone looking for a roommate.
2006-11-02 15:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should help her out in any way that you want to... all that matters is what you really want, not what it looks like to others.. If you want to just help her out until she finds somewhere to go, or if you want her to stay with you. If she really doesn't have anywhere else to go, then I would suggest helping her, and maybe just be her friend to try to build her confidence to become a better person.
2006-11-02 15:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by daisy_may95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋