I met a guy thru a friend, we talked thru email and xchangd pics, and hit it off very well, he called almost evryday and we talked for about 3 hrs/nite...after a couple of wks we met in person and went out 4 dinner...he was such a gentleman thru the date, paid for a very expensive meal and was very nice to me...we continued to talk on the phone after and the next wkend i invited him over last min. for my bday party, and he cancelled his plans (sat. nite) and came by, even bought me a present...next day (it has been 1 month since we met) we went to his place to watch a movie and ordered in....by the end of that nite he initiated a kiss and we ended up making out for a while and then he stopped to talk...during the talk i opened up to him and let him know that i like him...but he said he wasn't sure how he felt...i havent seen him since and we rarely talk b/c he says he's so busy @ work. why would he kiss me and act like he was so into me at first? im so confused, is he into me or not?
2006-11-02 15:23:03 · 16 answers · asked by jammer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is into you. But has commitment issues. Give him a week or so then give him a ring or stop by and just make out with him. then call him again to just talk. Don't mention how much you like him, let him tell you when he's ready
2006-11-02 15:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you are confused. He showered you with so much attention in the beginning, even came to your b-day & with a present, and then he kissed you at his house but is not sure how he feels about you? There's something wrong with him. Maybe he's seeing lots of girls at one time and just wants to keep things casual with you. That way he still gets his kisses and doesn't have to make a full committment to you. I could be wrong this is just my theory. All I know is that if he liked you he would've said so but he didn't. Don't stress out over this, forget him and meet someone else who would be dying to have you as their girlfriend:)
2006-11-02 15:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things you women have to go through. It sucks.
This guy is either (1) an ****** who just wanted to make out (at least he didn't make up crap to get you into bed; (2) dating other women and wants to hold you at arm's length; or (3) Doesn't know what he wants, doesn't want to commit to anything but at that moment in time really really wanted to get physcial with you.
It's only been a month, but don't take it too seriously; and if he hasn't "made up his mind" by a few more dates, dump the loser.
2006-11-02 15:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like he was interested but maybe he is not looking for anything serious and when he found out you really liked him he wanted to back up a little so that he didnt hurt you later... it could end up being good for you because at least he didnt lead you on to get in your pants and then stop calling. id say just talk to him and ask him what happened... if he doesnt know how he feels, let him know thats ok but youd still like to be able to hang out some times if he wants to
2006-11-02 15:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by .......... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but this guy got what he wanted from you
and now is most likely after someone else.
You can do much better than this guy and don't be so quick to do the same thing again, i hope you learn from this
I am sorry that i have to give you this news , and i know you are hurting right now, but you will move on and there is someone out there just for you .
Remember that Jesus loves you
2006-11-02 15:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by jan d 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may still be into you but not into a relationship. Sometimes men run scared when it looks like we like them>>> they just want a good time no strings attached. The next move is his, in the meantime relax, life is too long to stress over what makes men tick.
2006-11-02 15:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not to be mean, but just because you felt sparks doesn't mean that he did too. Maybe he just wasn't feeling it. Maybe he needs to step back and decide whether or not this is the type of thing he wants or not. I'd leave him alone for awhile and let him figure things out, better or worse.
2006-11-02 15:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Slappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him credit for trying!! Sometimes its easier to have chemistry on line and on the phone but after meeting it isn't there! Try next time meeting right away before investing so much time on-line and on the phone!
2006-11-02 15:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y'all did not know each other very well. and dont ever tell a guy you are into him, love him etc. first , they get so scared, they will run as fast as they can just the other way.
2006-11-02 15:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by jajajojikatt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be so frank, but no he is not. looks like he was looking for a noninvolved noncommitted relationship. consider yourself lucky you found out earlier than later.
2006-11-02 15:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋