heres the thing i am very self consious about myself because i am over wt. but i think i am very pretty in the face and i have a big heart and im fun. here is what i am not sure about.. i am married and my husband tells me how pretty i am. also almost all of his friends (very nice looking well educated) tell me how good looking i am and they hit on me some have told me they want me to do the nasty with them... one guy told me that i am what you call a fetish. his words... i love that i get the attention but i dont understand what it is that makes them all feel attracted to me.. is it a smell or my attitude? someone please tell me why someone who is over wt is getting all this attention and have for years when some of our more pretty skinny friends dont seem to get it...
2006-11-02 15:20:41 · 5 answers · asked by crazyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is about approachability and personallity. if you have a great personality, those who see that will be drawn to it. you have a pretty fact so that will make guys approach you also. for alot of adult guys physical appearance is not that big of a deal, personality is where it is at. On the physical not, if you are proportionate then overweight is not a big deal. Queen latifa is my favorite example, she is not a skinny person, but by a great number of men is considered very sexy. she is protortioned right. With skinny women there is also the fear that they are going to run off with another guy and if the are just hot then alot of guys will assume they are already in a relationship causeing them to not approach. in that sence there is a case of being to pretty. there are just so many variables in it. Looks are not the bigest thing, I would say your personality is the most important aspect.
2006-11-02 15:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In older times, overweight in women was considered very sexy, and there are many men nowadays who associate overweight with sexual accessibility. They are wrong--not you. What they are doing is disrespectful, and should not be construed as flattery, by you or your husband. The persons who are hitting on you are making their own associations of who is 'a loose woman' and who is not. And if someone refers to anything about you as fetish, they are referring to a fringe section of society that practices that type of behavior, and associating it with you. Whether you show up in leathers and stilettos or sackcloth and bare feet, these people are not giving you the kind of attention you think you are getting. Until a woman seeks out that type of attention and responds to it, she is receiving unwanted solicitation. There is still a run of men who think suggestive clothing and/or behavior is an open road to disrespect. Time to find some more respectful companions, and leave the boys to each other.
2006-11-02 23:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably your pretty face and something about your personality that' attracts them.
2006-11-02 23:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part is you are a nice person --- part is you are married and available for a fling but nothing long term
so they try it on
2006-11-02 23:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA (hey everyone, lets all point at this loser and laugh!)
2006-11-02 23:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋