My 2 in half yr old son whines ALL the time. His speech is slow, he's not speaking as many words as he should - he is in speech therapy. My question ia how to I teach him not to whine so much.
I've tried telling him to use his big boy voice, telling him I don't understand him when he whines, I've tried time out, and I've also tried ignoring him when he whines but he just gets louder and louder. I try walking away from him, but he just follows me screaming. I've tried putting him i his room, but he continues to whine and scream. It's driving me crazy. I love him to death, but I can't stand the whining anymore. Help!
2006-11-02 15:11:59 · 8 answers · asked by helpfulgirl75 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Any one of the methods you've "tried" can and will work if you use it consistently and constantly. When your son starts whining, tell him: "I can't understand you when you talk like that. Please use your big boy words." If he refuses, pick the discipline method of your choice ... time-out, ignore, his room, etc. If he does as you ask, reward him! "That was very good of you to use your big boy words!" Give him a hug or a sticker or some other small reward for doing the right thing. Postive reinforcement, tied to discipline when he doesn't do it right. Keep at it! It takes time to change a learned behavior, and you've taught him that he will eventually get his way if he whines and screams long enough. Re-train yourself and your son. Good luck!
2006-11-02 15:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could be whining because he gets frustrated that you don't understand him and have to ask him to repeat himself I have a grandson that had the same problem when he was a toddler he went to speech therapy and I'm happy to say he's fine now. But I have to agree with one of your other answers you might want to have him checked for other problems like autism or a hearing test (if the speech therapist didn't). What ever you do don't throw him in a room and ignore him, how cruel would that be, he's just a baby and wouldn't understand. Be patient and remember your dealing with a toddler not a teen. This doesn't mean he's a spoiled brat and you'd feel very guilty if there are other issues going on.
2006-11-03 00:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying "terrible two's"? Well here comes the "Trying Three's"! That transition between the two ages is HARD!! Three's are actually WORSE than the two's are! Your son is whineing because he wants to test you and your patience with him. Trust me- if this is all you have to deal with you are one lucky woman! He may also be doing this because he doesn't have the words to say what he wants. My son isn't speaking much either and he's 2- he just grunts! The only thing I can tell you is to repeat back what he is whineing to you in a whiney voice and than ask him if he understood what you said. If he say's "no" than explain to him that you can't understand him either. Good luck!
2006-11-02 23:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When does he whinge? My sons whinge when they are hungry and when they are tired...and yes, it drives me nuts too. Those are the times I put nice quiet music on, get out their drawing stuff, or puzzles and let them chill out a bit. More than anything, it tells me they are feeling a little stressed.
Disciplining isn't going to work, because it is something they will keep trying right through. (I remember doing it to my mother). Just be continuous....get down to their level and ask him to use his words because you don't understand what he is trying to say. Go through with him the things he could be trying to say. Then once you have got through that, tell him that you would like him to draw a picture for mummy...and see how he starts to calm down.
Children progress with their speech at varying rates, no one way is normal. If you are worried by his behaviour go to your local GP and get him tested. If you think this is behavioural, then consider that he may have confidence issues and try working on that
2006-11-03 01:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing it because YOU have proven to him that you WILL pay attnetion to his whining. So put him in his room and grab some headphones. YOU created the whining monster by giving it attention...only YOU can stop it, if you REALLY want to.
2006-11-02 23:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have him checked out for Autism- there are many different forms and degrees.
2006-11-02 23:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with weedancer.
2006-11-02 23:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him candy.....soft candy....but first u gonna ignore him no matter wat!!! if u keep doing that he will stop!
i hope it works out!
2006-11-02 23:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋