Even though I run around like a mad woman half the time I still find myself gaining weight I am 174lbs at 5'9 the heavest I have every been. I need to lose weight I beleieve my husband dosn't find me atractive anymore.
2006-11-02 15:11:20 · 16 answers · asked by Tara W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are probably eating poorly, believe me I know what you are going through, I have four kids. Start small and cut down your portions, and do some simple work outs. Maybe you have a machine like a bike or treadmill collecting dust in the house. Put the kids down for a nap and get on it for about 20 minutes a day. Eat half of what you normally eat at dinner. Stay away from sweets, it's so easy to grab a couple of cookies and eat them when you dish them out to the kids, you have to resist. Drink water, instead of pop. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 15:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I am also a stay-at-home mom. I have a 3 year old and a set of twin boys who are a year old.
I also know that "running around the house like a mad woman" doesn't help. I do the same thing and I'm slowly losing my weight. What you need to do is stay away from fats, sugars, carbs-and that means-pasta, breads, cakes, cookies, etc. Eat lots of veggies, fruits, and meats with no fat. Try to go for a good, fast walk 3-4 times a week while someone is home with the kids if it's hard to take the kids out. Believe me, I know it is!!! And try to do a few crunches on the floor. If you can't get outside, use a treadmill if you have one. Those are nice if it's raining or snowing out. Lay the kids down for a nap and jump on the treadmill for 20 minutes 3-4 times a week!! Between that and eating healthier, you'll see a difference!!!
If you don't have a treadmill, they have exercise tapes you can get that are inexpensive that you can try. If you aren't happy with yourself, only you can change the way you look. Good luck.
2006-11-02 17:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I definitely sympathize with you. It'[s much easier to gain weight than it is to lose it. It took me a year to lose 30lbs. I think part of the problem is the "running around". Although it seems like you're doing something (and you are!), your body has just become acclimated to the same moves and has reached a plateau. The other reason may be your diet. Because you're so busy, you may not have time to eat right. So here's my suggestion. Try you hardest not to eat carbs (bread, sugary food, pasta,etc.) for a month and get at least 30 minutes a day to yourself doing something that raises your heart rate. Stick to a diet that only includes fruit, veggies and meat. No junk food. Take your kids to the park and play tag and or go on a hike. If you can't afford a gym (or the time), get a pilates for beginners video for the times you don't have a full half hour to do something physical-Something is better than nothing-Also doing it with SOMEBODY helps. Get your hubby into gear!
2006-11-02 15:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by court 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you eating? If you're eating alot of carbs, concentrated sweets, processed foods, that'll put on the pounds. As well as consuming colas/pop. You need to look at your lifestyle, eating habits, and activity level. If you're not getting some type of exercise (not just running around after your kids) your not going to burn much calories/fat off. You also need to eat more frequently and small portions to keep your metabolism up. There are many weight loss book out there, you can pick one up and use it as a reference on what certain food are heathly and stick to a healthy diet. You don't need to deprive yourself of foods just not eat poorly all the time, because the more weight you'll gain.
Also you really need to look at the fact that you've had three kids, its not going to be as easy losing the weight as the your first child.
As for your feelings that you "think" that your husband may not find you attractive anymore... You really need to sit down and talk to each other and let each other know how you both are feeling. Communication is key to a healthy relationship.
So the change needs to come from within you. You need to be determined and stick with your goals for losing weight. There's no fast fix it when it comes to this.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 17:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by michi_19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not happy with the way you are. You need to change for yourself and no one else. Only you can make you happy. If you think running around for your kids and your husband is sufficient enough to call it exercises, look in the mirror, you are wrong. You stay at home so you have to make time to have a correct diet, not a diet, because diet is whatever you eat, it is not something you do for a week or a month. If you think that your husband is not attracted to you you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and what you plan on doing. When you lose five pounds, do not expect a party either, he will not notice that, but he will notice when you become more happy with yourself and you present yourself in a happier spirit.
2006-11-02 15:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by meonhere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your body has changed and your eating habits also. Ever find yourself finishing the kids food? If your answer is yes then stop it now. Drinking soda---revert to water . Every time you reach for that snack take and eat an orange (great energy booster) or an apple. Seriously think what your putting in your mouth-if it appears fattening- it probably is. As for hubby, once you start loosing the unwanted fluff (fat) invite him into romance again. We tend to get comfortable and bypass the kid stuff. Loose the weight , leave the kids with grand mom, get a hotel room--treat yourself. Remember we are our own worst enemies and critics. Just be good to yourself.
2006-11-02 15:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things with small kids is that we eat on the run. We're rushing through our own food because if we don't, the kids will be needing us and we won't have eaten. If you can break this cycle now and try sipping water when the kids are eating and then try eating when they are distracted so you can spend more time relaxing, that will help enormously. Eating fast means that we eat more before we feel full.
2006-11-02 15:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by meoorr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello- Please YOU ARE Beautiful, never think any different. You just gave birth, WOW- Now it is time for you and your Husband to come together and work like a team. He loves you! If you need someone to talk to look in the phone book , there will be places for Moms can meet with other Moms who feel the same. Look in the Community paper,or ask another Mom.
Take Care
2006-11-02 15:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are going down the same creek, but in different boats. Thank God, because if I got in your boat I would probably sink it......sorry, but I do feel your pain (same situation as you) I snack light when I feel hungry, then eat one meal a day...I know it sounds really really stupid, but buy a piece of "big girl" lingerie, your husband is still a guy, he'll be turned on seeing you half naked. Then when you feel comfortable, you can get more (probably a smaller size after a while)
2006-11-02 15:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a second here......why did you wait 6 months after the 2nd one to make another?
2006-11-02 15:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by jh361 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋