I have been with my man for going on 6 years and we have 2 children together? I am currently in college. My man works to support our family. He won't allow me to get a job. He feels that i should finished school and stay at home with the children untill I graduate. Now my problem is that I see him stressed out over the bills and stuff. I see his body wearing down from being over worked. I try to help by getting a job but we always get in to a argument about him not wanting me to work untill i finished school. I personaly can't keep watching him do this to him self but yet he says he is fine and just focus on school and home. What should I do? How do I ease his stress? Someone please help?
2006-11-02 15:09:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he knows when you get out of school that you will be able to make things alot better for the both of you. just try and hang on untill you get dont with school....but if it is going to take a while before you get done with school take a summester off and get a part time job and use the excuss that you are streesssed about school and need a break
2006-11-02 15:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by hoytman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could, since he wants you to stay home, maybe take one or two children to babysit in your home. Another thing, see if there a anyway to set up a budget and cut cost on things.
.A penny saved is a penny earned. If you are eating out, eat in, if you go to a movies, rent a video, make use of left overs. If you could save some money this way it would help with the bills.Hope something i mentioned help and yes, it is important you get your education and it is real hard to find a good babysitter if you did go to work. My son-in-law insisted my daughter stay home a raise their children rather than work and have a babysitter for them. I know things are hard right now but it seems as though you both care about each other. Work together instead of against and things will turn around. Good luck
2006-11-02 23:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any way that you can cut back cost at home or anywhere for that matter , go over the budget and see what can be cut down or eliminated, if he is willing th sacrifice himself you might give up a few items as well
2006-11-02 23:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, do what you have to ....lie. Apply for jobs behind his back, then tell him that the school has this program where you have the chance at graduating earlier if you work through this program helping the community. Have everything planned out for him and then tell him....make it simple. Guys have a short attention span!
2006-11-02 23:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
SIT WITH HIM WHEN HE GETS HOME AND TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT .. DONT ARGUE .. ITS NEVER GOOD FOR THAT... TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE JUST TRYIN TO HELP AND THAT YOU DONT LIKE TO SEE HIM STRESSED.. OR DO LIL SIDE JOBS IF YOU CAN .. I MEAN THERES LOT OF THINGS . . JUST TALK TO HIM AND SEE WHATS UP
2006-11-02 23:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by MiZ_PuMpKiN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋