Moving out. Parents help.?

Question

I told my parents that I am moving out not too long ago, and they have been trying to convince me out of it ever since. I asked them tonight if they would buy me the plane ticket. And they totally flipped. They were like, well how are gonna going to afford California, and you will never be able to do it, It is a huge mistake.
Also, my mom said she won't buy the ticket. So, since I don't have a CC, (im turning 18 in a few weeks, and moving out like a week after) I have to use theirs to order online. If I don't, then I have to buy one in the airport and pay out the butt. So, I don't know what to say to them, Its just something I want to try, and do, and they think im making a huge mistake. Any advice or pointers would be good. :( although i doubt anything i say can reassure them, and get their blessing on my leave.

i have money saved.. and i do work... so i am paying them right up front for the ticket.... im not that stupid.

Answer 1

You're trying to assert your independence (and that's commendable) but to be honest, it seems you're not at all ready. If you're going to make a stand about wanting to be on your own, make sure you can support yourself without asking for their credit card or money. It just ruins the idea of wanting to be independent, doesn't it?

When I finally decided to leave my parent's house, I made sure I had enough money to make it on my own. I never asked them for money. I couldn't bring myself to do it since my folks didn't like the idea of my leaving home in the first place. But I proved to them that I was mature and responsible enough, and looking back, they now respect me for that.

18 isn't old enough (even though you may feel like it). Why not wait a few more, and make sure you're absolutely mature and ready to leave home. With your life now, you don't have to pay rent, buy your own food, and stuff like that. In the real world, you don't pay rent, you get kicked out of your apartment. Especially in California where the cost of living is really high, living alone is not as easy and wonderful as it sounds.

You have a very nice life right now. Why don't you enjoy it while it lasts? I assure you, it won't last long. You're not staying 18 forever and your parents know that.

Answer 2

Did you ask them to buy the ticket or did you ask them to put it on their cc and you give them the money? If you have to ask them to pay for the ticket then you are not ready to be moving to far away from free room and board. Get a job now and start saving, it is very expensive to get out on your own, in a few months you will have money to move on and a little time to make sure this is the right move for you. Is there something or someone in CA that you are trying to get to? Maybe they just don't want to see you go to far from the nest until they feel comfortable that you are ready. My son just turned 18 and I am fighting the emotional roller coaster of whether to let him stay in my home. Not in school and has no job. In my situation I may have to push him out in order for him to learn that life isn't a vacation.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

you want your parents to buy you the ticket for the reason that you don't have an CC? you never said anything about giving them the $$$ to cover the cost and then heve them use their CC? their is a reason kids are under the responsibility of their parents till the age of 18, and some should have this extended till age to 28 or so. just sit and think about all of the unknowns that you could encounter and do you have the knowledge to overcome them? if you answer this question with a yes then you need to listen to your parents and stay under their roof till you grow up a few more years. once your out and on your own you "will" get up one morning and ask you self why you had to rush into adulthood when you had it made at home. just trying to give you a crash course in the real world. after the fact isn't the time to sit and think of what you should have done, this needs to be completed prior to anything, you said you'r going to be 18 in a few weeks, at this age you should be thinking about school, in other words collage. $$$ is the key of being on your own, working at a burger joint will tie you over for a year till the door opens, then your going to be sitting in a room with others trying to get the same job as you. edacation is the key, i would hire the collage graduage even if it's for building bird houses, he has completed somthing you havent. its a harsh world and most of the people you know are not your friends, sit back and enjoy your time at home, you have the rest of your life to mess it up, no hurry on this, your going to get there in no time at all. please roll up your young spirt and wait 365 days prior to departing the nest, try working in you home town earning $$$ and handing it over to your parents as rent, buying food and other things in the house, this will give you a tast of the rest of your life. good luck with your dission and try not to grow up without tasting the fruit along the way...

Answer 5

Where are you going to live when you land in California? How are you going to pay for this place? Where are you going to work and/or go to school? Do you realize how expensive it is to live in California? How are you going to repay your parents for the cost of the plane tickets? Have you truly put any thought into this other than, "I want to run away to California and be a big star!"??? Grow up. Listen to your parents. Go to school. Get a job. And then when you can afford to move to California on your own, reconsider moving.

Answer 6

Try this: Wait for a few months/weeks! Give some time for your parents to process the idea of you leaving, they have always been there, don't you think it might be a little harsh on them? And while you're at it...this time will give you a chance to earn some money!

Answer 7

I left my parents house with their disapproval. You'll have to prove to them that you can make it out on your own and that means paying your plane ticket yourself with your own money rather using your parent's credit card (since they don't respect you moving out). My best suggestion to give to you (from my own personal experience) is to save up the money and then move out on your own.

I moved out when I was 21 and I didn't have much saved, so I applied for a credit card and bought a lot of my housing stuff with that. It took me about 2 years to pay off my debt, but I did it on my own without my parent's help! And they are proud of me that I'm able to make it on my own (which I've been on my own for 3 years now).

Answer 8

You're 17! Aren't you still in high school? I can understand why your parents think you are making a huge mistake. Why would you want to move out anyway? Unless your parents are really horrible to you, you should stay. You're too young to move out.

Answer 9

If that was me (and probably will be soon) then I'd explain to them that I was growing up, and had to make my own decisions and my own mistakes. That no matter what they said, I'd thought it through already, and that I was going ahead with it, and that I really wish that I could leave on good grounds with them.

Parents tend to forget that they themselves were once young, and also tend to think that they're kids are younger than what they really are.

Good luck with everything!!!

Answer 10

If you can't "do it on your own", then you're probably not ready. Life has A LOT of unexpected stuff happen. Doesn't sound like you're prepared to deal with it.