How do I motivate my child to do his homework.?

Question

child is 14

Answer 1

You should give him some rules, My kids aren't allowed to go outside,watch TV,play video or anything until their homework is completed and checked over by me. It has worked for me

Answer 2

No amount of punishment or bribing or pleading is going to work. I watched my parents do that with my brother, and the more they pushed, the more he resisted. Sometimes it's better to back off and see your child for more than just grades.

Does your kid plan on going to college? Ask what he's aiming for as far as college. The only way to get into a top-tier one is good grades, which includes doing homework. A higher goal like a specific college or group of colleges may motivate, may not.

I would definitely recommend the book I'm currently reading - "The Case Against Homework: How Homework is Hurting Our Children and What We Can Do About It" by Sara Bennett and Nancy Kalish. It's not a whine-fest as the title indicates - it gives some really good insight into reasons why certain things just don't work.

Answer 3

I'm 16 and my parents have asked that question since I was in grade-school. I didn't really have any reasoning for not doing it...I just didn't!!! I talked to a school counselor about it once. She said to take breaks every now and again while I'm working. I don't really like that idea for myself because once I start working, I don't like to be interrupted but I thought I'd throw it in. Maybe it will work for your child. I have thought about it a lot and I think that my biggest problem was that whenever I would try and do my homework my parents would make me sit in a hard chair under bright lights in complete quiet. They had to do this though because I had ADD and I would always end up doing something that wasn't my homework. But in the chair I was uncomfortable, the lights glaring off the paper hurt my eyes and gave me a headache and the quiet made my mind wander. I finally realized, and convinced my parents that, I am an informal learner. I have to be somewhere like on my bed, with low lights and a little bit of music in the background. I was also(and still am) extremely unorganized. If I would do my work, I would always lose it. Maybe you could help your child organize their book bag.


Good luck. Hope this helped!

Answer 4

He is 14 years old, he should be responsible for his own homework. If he doesn't do it he doesn't do it, the fate of the world does not hinge on whether he does his homework or not, 20 years from not it will not matter whether he did his homework or not. If he falls behind because he didn't do his homework then he falls behind. Some kids don't do well in a classroom setting during puberty. My daughter failed highschool because of that problem. She went on to get her GED through independent study and instead of it taking the three months they said it would take her it took less than a month and half and she excelled in the classes. Got her GED went on to enroll in college is currently carrying 12 units and for the past two years has continuesly held a 4.0 average. Not bad for a kid who flunked out of highschool huh?

Answer 5

Be with ur child, the child always requires either of the parents. Tell him that after homework we will play a game in the computer, the game of his choice, in that game even if u are capable of winning u may have to lose which will boost him.

Also see if he is involved in any pre occupied thoughts or do he look out for something and he is unable to get an answer.

Answer 6

Motivate her? It's her responsibility, and it is what is expected of her as a member of the family. That ought to be enough.

She's too immature at 14 to see far enough into the future and comprehend the consequences of being uneducated, so don't waste your breath on that. Just make her do it. If you have to stand over her each night and check with her teachers, etc., so be it. You're a parent, and that's your job. Her job is to do as she's told.

Answer 7

These kids today are so different than when I grew up... you need to lay down the rules and let your child know that he or she is in your HOME and that homework is a REQUIREMENT... A RULE; and if he or she can't follow your rules... then it's time for them to GO... you and your spouse are the only GROWN FOLKS in the home, and what you say goes! No motivation needed, you need to tell your child what is going to go down!

Answer 8

When my children get home from school they grab a snack and we sit down together at the kitchen table and get the homework cracking its best to do it right after school in a quiet enviroment no distractions if you wait til later they will be tired and less apt to want to do it. My kids know homework right after school no friends over, video games , t.v , etc. Maybe you could do your "homework" too with him grab some bills or other thing to need to get done in the house and sit down with him and do your thing show him by example :)

Answer 9

I make it out of a game for my 11 yo and she is getting better at doing her homework by herself
ex. If she had geometry we would make a song about the different name on the angles or shapes it help her and it made her memorize the names

Answer 10

If he refuses to get it done warn him that you are about to start taking things away. When he still doesnt do it then do as you said you would. Take away his video games. Even if you have to unplug it and take game and cartridges to someone's house. Then the tv. Then the phone. Keep on till he has nothing left but a bed and covers and eventually he will get the message.

If he doesnt. Then shame on him.