Any theists married to atheists?

Question

or vice-versa. Have your different ideologies influenced any areas of your relationship? In what ways? If you have kids, how are you addressing religious education?

[[[[[[[[ - thanks for the compliment, but I'm an atheist, very happily married to a theist. :-)

Answer 1

I am married to an atheist.


I suggested that we look for a book that was simple enough to explain the various belief systems of the world’s religions without going into to much detail. We Explained each of these to our child and told him that he would have plenty of time to decide if he wanted to join a particular church when he is old enough to make an informed decision. We also explained that some people like his mom did not believe in a God at all. He saw the compassionate nonviolent ways of the Buddhists as making the most sense to him. He has always emulated this Buddhist idea of nonviolence in his dealings with others. All and all We are happy with the way we handled it.

love and blessings Don

Answer 2

I have friends that are. They just avoid the subject. She takes the kids to church and he is allowed to have his say but doesn't push it. The agreement is that if the kids don't want to go they can stop.

I personally think that it is a lot of extra stress on the relationship. I don't know how you reconcile it. They do it by avoiding the subject which is how I have always dealt with my parents. But I couldn't pick them. I just wouldn't chose it with the option. I always stayed away from anyone as a potential mate who was very religious because I really think the belief is absurd and I know that I would say something out of bounds at some point because I am too honest.

Answer 3

Great question, That is a reality for some people these days. Believe that regardless of the choice of religion people should focus in finding compatibility in something other than religion. Although religion is very important, it does not really determine if a marriage is going to last. One needs to find in a partner intellectual and emotional compatibility, a desire to achieve the same goal, a good sense of communication, an open mind, and lost of love. Once all of the mentioned are art in a relationship, then religion can be discuss at a more intellectual level rather than pure emotional.

Answer 4

I could never be married to a theist. How can you reconcile such a huge difference in your ideology? Where do you find compromise?
I don't want to be with a person who in my view is wrong, because to me religion is something i have no need for, and i don't understand why anyone else needs to believe in god.
Although I don't believe in any form of deity or religion, I hesitate to say I'm an atheist, because Christians consider that to be a religion as well.

Answer 5

The problem for me... an agnostic married to a theist has not been religious education of children... they eventually choose for themselves. It can work sometimes, it depends on the open-mindedness of the people involved.

Answer 6

I had a girlfriend thats christian and I was athiest. She taught me to be more accepting and less analytical. I taught her to weigh the facts and make her own decisions. Both of us met a happy medium and actually did quite well for over 3 years.

I think we just grew apart in different directions, which had nothing to do with our beliefs.

Answer 7

We won't be having kids but I'm atheist and shes born again Christian and former Deacon. We see no problem at all as long as we love each other.
Tammi Dee

Answer 8

I'm married to an atheist, and my father is an atheist. I raised my son as a Christian and he is now an atheist.

Answer 9

I knew one once. She was my wife but since then I found this great new friend.

Answer 10

kathryn, you look wonderful mate. how old are you? are you single? i am one of them men still looking for a pillow to cuddle at night