It all started when my son was 2. He had uncontrolable siesurzes which he was heavilly medicated for. After the siesures he started uncontrolable fits over little things. He is almost 10 now 5 years ago he went into kindergarden. Everything was good until he started Stealing form the other students and teachers constantly disturbing the class running around. For the least to say he failed kindergarden. the next year was the same. So he turned 7 his first time in 1st grade.cut it short he is still in 1st grade at almost 10. He is severe ADHD. From the time he turned 7 and still going on now. He has tried to SET FIRE to 1 apartment twice, our first house 2 or 3 times, our SUV once, our boat once.He steals lies pees on the floor bites holes in everything, is creul to animals fights He steals pencil sharpeners from school and makes weapons. He has been to 3 residental treatment centers. They say nothing is wrong. I fear that one night while we sleep he might hurt me. I feel this is right.
2006-11-02 14:25:09 · 11 answers · asked by Terry M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At first before the treatment centers we spanked him But 5min later he was doing the same thing over again. As for bording schools and mental health center will not take him because of his age. The lowest age most will take is 12 to 17. We have tried push ups, sit ups, laps, But let me tell you if a child has decided not to do something you probly cant make him. Also we get monthy to weekly threats that he is going to run away. He has at one point in time tried to do something while I was sleeping I awoke to him standing above me with sissors acting like he was going to stab me.He was 5. As for relationship; I have been in one for almost 5 years.
2006-11-02 14:25:32 · update #1
He has been on about every bi-polor, adhd, and physco medicine.It is not allergys
2006-11-02 14:29:35 · update #2
He has spent 6 months at boystown in Memphis, TN. They did not do anything but totally spoil him for the entire time he was there.
2006-11-02 14:43:31 · update #3
I can hear the desperation in your question. It sounds like you, your son and your problems are falling through the cracks. I don't know who the proper authorities are in TN, but perhaps you could start with his school principal or counselor. You need to sit down with someone and make them understand how serious this problem is, how overwhelmed and scared you are for yourself and your child, and that he needs help immediately, not tomorrow, not next week, not in an hour, but right now. You must insist that he not come home with you, that someone come and take him and help him and help you too.
You both need help, not just him, but I do think it's best that he is removed from your home. Obviously there is something going on there. Like I said, you must insist that he be removed for his sake and for yours. If you refuse to take no for an answer, the authorities will pay attention and help you.
2006-11-02 15:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact social services, DCFS, even the police. If this happens again - the fire or trying to harm you - you can call the police and have him removed from your home. They will then get the proper people involved and no you do not have to take him back immediately. There is a serious problem with your child and you need to get him in a situation that is safe for him (not to mention safe for you). I had a cousin, years and years ago, that was very similar. He had to be put in a custodial situation until he was an adult. At that time he was released, and went immediately back into jail for the same type of things. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-11-02 22:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each state has a mental health coordinator for your area. Consult this person as to what can be done. I certainly don't judge you, he is dangerous and disturbed. You need a psychiatrist to work with so he gets a correct diagnosis. You have documented him well. I know you love him but it may be time to let go, too. He needs 24 hour supervision. Give yourself a break and call the state dept of mental health asap. He may really hurt someone. Best of luck to you and your son.
2006-11-02 22:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but that must be hard i live with a bipolor sister who is older and i understand the being scared of getting hurt she has scared the crap out of me plunty of times, i know that you have tried hard from the way that it sounds and you must really love your son for trying this hard. my best advice is to pray and then talk to your local child protectave services or something like that. it should be in the phone book. you might want to concider somthing like a military type bording school. place or a place for boys. where i live there is a place called boys ranch and miss behaving boys go there or there are plunty of military places, but your son cant go to any of those places if he has a head injury, that is why my sister could not go so we had to send her to a place for girls in utah, but there are great places in utah where your son can t hurt anyone and for like the first month all you can wear is like sweats and underwhere and socks (no shoes) and then you earn previlges, and there they make you practice religion (what ever faith you are) and its really cool the only problem is its so expensive.
2006-11-02 22:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by lizzy r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, he needs some serious help and quick. Contact Social Services and get their advice and maybe you can find a lawyer that will take care of things for free.
2006-11-02 22:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you would hit an already angry child? Why would you want to teach this child to hit? That is what you do when you spank children. You're doing nothing to control their behavior other than teaching them that it is perfectly alright to behave violently. And you are trying to control the violence by teaching violence? You don't make much sense...Yes by all means contact the state as you have no parenting skills yourself and both you AND your son need anger management classes.
2006-11-02 23:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact the Friend of the Court for your county
2006-11-02 22:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry,Darling! If you really want to do this, just sign over your child to the State.I hope you have piece of mind, I know it's hard, and I am not judging you.I just wanna Bless you and your child!
2006-11-02 22:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Marna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer and put him up for adoption ?
2006-11-02 22:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you and your son its sad but i really understand......but why don't you .tried Dr Phil and see if he can help you am so so serious .he had help so my family so am so serious .....he give you the ans were your looking for.........be live me.try it ..that poor child my heart goes out to him.......sorry...........hang-in-there
2006-11-02 22:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋