It seems like almost every night there seems to be an argument in the house that I live with my parents. To me it seems like its always my fault. I'm almost 20 years old and I'm currently going to college and I'm also working part time. I have a car payment due every six months and credit card bills as well. I don't know what to do. I need some advice.
2006-11-02 14:19:38 · 17 answers · asked by smart_flower05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stay if you can. The first temptation to make it on your own would be to quit school. Don't do it. Do whatever you can to get along.
Have a cozy sit down with mom and dad at the table, serve up some hot tea or hot choc. Keep the mood light and say, seems like we are fighting alot. What can I do to help?
And do whatever they suggest to make everyone happy. You need to stay there and under it all, they love you like crazy - believe me. It might not seem fair to have to give in on things, but life isn't fair - and if you can stay until you are out of school, that would be great.
BTW - no more credit card debt - stop using the cards, they are killers and the debts you incur now will stay with you for years, long after the stuff has worn out.
2006-11-02 14:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to stick it out, its hard being a college student and having the little bit of bills u do have. So jus wait cuz u gonna end up movin out then havin to move back in cuz a part time job is not gonna pay for an apartment. Do a budget, how much your bills cost now, then go and see how much an apartment cost and see if u can afford, if u can then move out.
2006-11-02 14:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember its not easy out there , but given your situation you may be better to move out. You are more than older enough
just make sure you can afford it. do you home work and make sure before you jump start into it. You may want to tried sharing with a good friend. but then sometime this can brake up a good friendship. at lease if you have your own place you can come and go as you please. Anyway look on the net for places around your area and get ideas of prices, Remember there are other expenses like electricity, maybe gas or phone bill,
water that you will be looking at.
May God bless you and have a great day
2006-11-02 14:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by jan d 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off you never said what the arguments are about. So spill the beans so we can understand more.
Maybe the parents are fighting alot because you are 20 yrs old and working and going to school but are you trying to help around the house or does mom and dad do it all??
Sometimes parents just feel like the children will never grow up and they will be raising them the rest of their lives.
As a parent I have a partial idea of how your parents are feeling , we raise our children and dream of how life will be for us after we spend all those years raising the children then life slaps us in the face and we relize we never have time to be just us and we get depressed about our dreams that have blown up in our faces.
TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND ASK THEM WHAT YOU CAN DO TO MAKE THINGS BETTER.
2006-11-02 15:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Vern 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it would be best for you to try and stick it out until you are done with college, try and get the credit cards taken care of in the mean time and if it gets to the point that the arguments affect your grades then move, but try and stick it out until the credit cards are paid off.
2006-11-02 14:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by John H 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he'll I've been there and made the mistake of moving out my . bills got more and more higher on me and my rent is too dame high for me alone . ooh yah bye the way i work from 5am to 9pm Monday thru Friday just to make end meet . so if you ask me what is a little respect to your parents house gonna cost you , I'd have to say not much huh . do yourself a favor and learn to live by the rules . its hard i know but it's a lot harder out there .
2006-11-02 14:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are learning about life. you have a car payment and bills ...ummmmm sounds like your parents have raised a pretty responsible person. are the arguments really worth it? do you want to loose all you have? guess what, we all have to follow rules, even if you live alone. self discipline is hard. that's how we all get in situations. not a bad thing, but why learn the hard way?stay at home, listen,and really try hard to finish college first.
2006-11-02 14:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by jajajojikatt 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try to find a room mate from school. I say it is time to move out. Deep down, parents always look for the day that their children are 18 and move out, not because they don't love you, but because they look for the time that they can be a couple again...Also once you think about moving out it's telling yourself that it's time...good luck...
2006-11-02 14:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they are don't want you to leave don't leave.
I mean you won't get an apartment for free. It is gonna be another bill on top of your car payement.
But if they are kind of "good to going " you like the Taco -bell commercial then you better do what it takes.
2006-11-02 14:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about what you are arguing over. Not helping out, being expected to call when you are going to be late or not coming home when expected (late at night), treating your parents like servants. Move out and see how grown up you really are. P.S. don't ask for help from them either.
2006-11-02 14:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋