Guys 21 and older, this one is for you....Why would you prefer a shy/pretty girl instead of an outgoing/pretty

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girl? Someone a a similar question, but it did not ask for a reason. Since I read a few comments, I would just like to have a little more detail about this one. What attracts you to the shy one? And, what attracts you to the outgoing one? One other question, do guys make lists (or have them in mind) of what they are looking for in a serious heterosexual relationship. I know a lot of women do it. Just curious.

So there are still some men that appreciate mystery.

Guys, would you prefer a shy lady to remain shy and quiet or do you think her coyness will eventually become irritating to you? Some shy women try to convert to being outgoing.

My avatar's hair is not the subject thank you. My real hair is dark brown.

So trustworthyness is a quality that shy women are to possess? Which is an ok assumption, but I guess everything depends on the person.

Yes, I have a list, but that does not mean if all the wishes are not met the guy no longer qualifies.

Two shy people would work together in a relationship. I believe that one would eventually become the dominant outgoing half.

Answer 1

Guys are attracted to girls. Shy girls just seem to have the extra spark of mysterious sexual power that drives me over the top.

Answer 2

Ok...You know the whole tribal thing...men hunt, women pick and gather. Well...it's not much of a hunt if a girl is outgoing and easy to approach. Some guys like the challenge of getting thru the barriers of the shy one.
The attraction to the shy one - usually cute, innocent looking...Kinda like weak prey.
The attraction to the outgoing one - the confidence, usually flashy, usually shows cleaveage
Yes, guys have a list...usually top of the list is "a heartbeat" (but optional to some) LOL.

Answer 3

Wow, Are you telling me a girl/lady has a list of things she wants in a guy?
Are you serious?
I never heard that before. So if the guy who asks her doesn't satisfy all her requirements has no chance of dating?
I think that is being too shallow.
I used to have a "list" but that only makes narrow the better choices you can have.
I used to be like I am only gonna date someone who is virgin, who has long hairs, who is short, who is from my race, even a specific tribe from my race.
Well what if that girl was raped and prefers to have short hair?
I am no longer having those critereas.
Because you gonna see a perfect girl the next day who doesn't even qualify 10% of my requirements. So Am I going to say "fail"
No.
Ok about shyness.
I am 25. Shyness is so sexy. I mean I am getting attracted to this girl at school I never got a chance to talk to her. She is sociable to people. And last night I just asked her a dum question for the sake of talking to her. And she was blushing and all red and kind of nervous and shy, well guess what It made me like her even more.
But on the other hand I like her sociability. Her ability to talk to people. Who wants to date a non-sociable person like me?

So we both look for both shyness and outgoingness in their own rights.

Answer 4

Shy girls (or the ones that usually keep more to themselves) are typically looked at as being more trustworthy. You see a girl that is very outgoing, normally you would see her as being flirty...which would in turn make it more difficult to trust her. Don't get me wrong, most women are VERY outgoing and want the attention...but mean no harm. But it aint something you would expect from a shy girl.

Answer 5

If I was too pick I guess I would choose outgoing, I'm pretty shy and I'm not sure how both me and her being shy would work.

Answer 6

i tend to end up with the outgoing ones. mostly because im lazy

Answer 7

im not a guy but i think for the power

Answer 8

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