My 8 year old son has a girlfriend?

Question

Is this normal? He wont admit it, but I did see a note that this girl wrote to him. It was nothing bad she was just wondering why his friends want him to break up with her, What should I say to him? I did not tell him that I saw the note because I don't want to embaris him. Should I tell him he is way to young to have a girlfriend? He's still is my little boy.

Answer 1

At his age a "girlfriend" means she's a friend and she is a girl. The other kids (probably boys) are thinking this is a bad thing since we all know GIRLS HAVE COOTIES. Leave him alone, let him have his healthy friendships. He sounds like a kid who has learned mutual respect of both sexes he's going to make a great husband and father some day.

Answer 2

Alright lets see.... you know he's gonna have a girlfriend one way or another, and its perfectly fine. We all have to learn how to interact with people, including the opposite sex, its part of his growth. Of course you should keep an eye on him, kids need to experience these things, but also need your guidance. There are plenty of forces that will define what "love" is and all that, so you want to be one of those forces. Because these first steps do mean a lot and might just influence him later, let him handle it, but talk to him. You're his mother and without a doubt have many things to tell him, that could save him a lot of trouble. As for the note i dont think its really necessary to ask, i mean mom's just know, and even now at 18 some of us boys will still deny so dont feel bad, its just sorta akward for us boys to tell mom. Oh and don't tell him he's too young, by the looks of it the issue might resolve itself. Open communication is the best thing you can do though, tell him what you know, whats gonna happen, and that youll always be there when problems do arise, and whether hes 8 or 51 hell always be your little baby( my grandma tells my dad so). well good luck.

Answer 3

Help him with this if he asks. Some boys and girls have "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" as young as 6. It's really a cute label at this stage, they really just talk together, maybe hold hands in private. On occasion, if there is no one around, they may kiss, but it usually gets most embarrasing for them to be seen holding hands at this age. It's a learning stage, and boys and girls will have "playdates" more than any other kind of "dates" (some still think this is yucky, after all!) Also, most kids this age usually think of the term as having a boy for a friend or a girl for a friend--nothing more.

Answer 4

I had a boyfriend when i was in 3rd , 4th and 5th grade. Same boy. His name was Dennis. I still remember his phone number even though i am an adult now.

He invited me to church with him and his family and i went and then back to his house for lunch on several occasions.He got to go to the big amusement park with us once. Wrote me a letter when i was on vacation in another state.

We would talk on the phone and hold hands. He kissed me a peck one time and that is it. The rest was love notes saying i love you do you love me answer yes or no. That sort of thing.

I really did love that little boy. Would love to know what he grew up to be like and how he is and all. How many kids etc.

Not to worry. You might just ask him off the wall one day " hey do you have a girlfriend yet? " If he says yes ask him how it is going.They cant do a lot being in school anyway.

Answer 5

My six year old niece has a boyfriend he even gave her a ring. lol They don't take it the same way that older kids do, they just say they are boyfriend and girlfriend, there is no reason to worry about it or to bring it up. I have an 8 year old daughter and I have found little notes she has written to boys, it is all innocent. And I think it is kinda cute.

Answer 6

Yes! He is still your little boy! 8 is way too young to have a girlfriend. It's incidents like these that lead to teenage pregnancy. I'm not saying that your son will get a girl pregnant...I'm just saying that society is putting so much pressure on our kids, and they are being exposed to things so early. I think that you should sit him down and talk to him about how old is old enough to do things. I'm not trying to control your parenting..just giving some advice.

Answer 7

I don't think that you should worry too much. At this age... boy and girl friend relationships are more about crushes than the "cringe" sexual stuff that we as parents are mortified to think about. Let him know what you think is appropriate... talking, studying together... I don't know what your take is on it... BUT make sure to also let him know that he is much to young to be too serious with that sort of thing. That's probably what his friends are trying to tell him in a boy way... they might feel he's spending more time siting around talking to his "girl" than being his old sefl playin with the boys. Tell him to enjoy his childhood and if it comes to it... let the girl down easily... at 8 teasing still goes... Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

first meet the girl. if you dont like the situation, then tell him he cant have a gf until he is in junior high/middle school(or whenever you decide, just dont be irrational). i think its kind of cute, but it is not appropriate for kids that young to be allowed to act that way. I once met a 7 year old that rode my schoolbus that had already had sex(by choice, with a girl his age that wanted to do it too)! when i was in 5th grade, I liked a boy. he asked me out b4 recess, then I dumped him after recess... because of my friends. I felt bad and I really liked him too, so I wrote him a not asking him back out and I never gave it to him. my dad found it in my backpack about a year later... now I laugh, but back then it was serious. my first crush! well if your son is going through what I went through, maybe its time to have "the talk" with him. also let him know not to do something that he doesnt want to do just because his friends tell him to. peer pressure is a big thing these days, and you dont want your son to get sucked into the cycle

Answer 9

Yes, it's very normal. I teach eight year olds, and that's the age they begin to have "girlfriends." Most of the letters I see are exactly what you described - do you like me, why do your friends want you to break up with me, etc. They say they have boyfriends and girlfriends, but really, they don't speak. It's all letters and talk amongst friends. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Answer 10

People who snoop must learn how to act as if they do not know what they do know. You have put yourself in that position. If there is anything he needs to talk over with you, he will appreciate your having been discreet.

Don't worry; it's natural for some kids to have "girlfriend/boyfriend" relations quite young, just as it is natural for other kids to think it is very silly and tease them. That is apparently what the note was about. Just let him work it out for himself unless he asks for your advice. After all, you must act as if you did not snoop.