The answer I got from him was nothing we didnt eat lunch. So being the involved, concerned parent I am I called one of his friends mothers and told her to ask her son the same question. She got the same response. At that point I called the school and explained to them what my concern was (he said he didnt eat lunch, so I was trying to find out if their was a problem in cafeteria? I didn't make any accusations towards anyone at the school, i was just concerned. Toward the end of the evening yesterday the situation was resolved w/my son and he said "Oh yeah I remember we had spagetti for lunch", I forgot. I reminded him upon the advice of the schhol secretary. Told her what the outcome was this morning. When I picked my son up fm school today he said the principle told him he cant go on the fieldtrip tomorrow because he lied to his mother at home. Now the field trip was part of an in school program that if your child is a good student they are considered excellent eagle.can she do that?
2006-11-02 13:51:21 · 23 answers · asked by danastann 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
THAT'S BULL ****!!!! He's 5 yrs old!! He wasn't lying to you on purpose!! My son is also 5 and tells me the same thing..OR he brings his school lunch home and eats it here! (don't ask me why?!) But he's still new with the going to school thing...and forgetting and lying are TWO different things. I'd DEMAND that your child be allowed to go on the trip or take it up with the PTA ~ that's messed up..cause I know that when someone tells my 5 yr old he's going somewhere with someone...that's ALL he talks about...and then for someone to say...oh...you can't go now! NOT RIGHT AT ALL!!! COMPLAIN!! ANd being called a liar by a principal?! That's not right either...who is she to punish for forgetting..Isn't that the PARENT'S JOB?!
2006-11-02 13:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would just say that if you are not happy that a sit down is required with the teacher/principal involved as children do forget and they make mistakes. I would say to the principal that over such a small issue as this one that you should consider actions taken a bit severe and unnecessary over a forgotten lunch put it this way if the principal forgot what she ate and told her boss the same story and the boss turned around to her and said look because you lied to me or forgot what you had for lunch yesterday and caused me the worry You shouldn't come to work because of the problems youv'e caused what do you think would be her response I would think she would be up in arms and make a protest to either someone higher than her supervisor or try to resolve the situation in a calm and relaxing manner
2006-11-02 14:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by SARAH L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time he has been away from you? If so, this is normal attachment behavior. Even if he did go to preschool before this, some kids can have a difficult time with transitions. Leaving you for a whole day can be traumatic for your little one, but a necessary part of life. You need to make it as easy as possible on your little guy in the mornings and stand your ground. You will do him no good by "saving" him every day. I have worked with preschoolers for 14 years now, and I've lived through the meltdowns. This is what I tell my children's parents.... Give a kiss and hug, tell them you love them and will see them later, and GO. The longer you drag out the leaving, the worse it will be. If he is supposed to ride the bus, you walk him to it, give his hand to an older sibling, say goodbye, and let the bus driver deal with the screaming on the way to school. Separation anxiety usually only lasts (in the screaming area) for a week to a month. Once your little guy gets in the routine (and understands that mommy will always come back- or he will always see mommy when the bus brings him home) it will get better. Until he gets the idea that school is where he stays during the day, don't go to the school. As you have seen, this gets neither one of you anywhere. I'm glad that the day he wouldn't get on the bus that you took him to school anyway! Good for you! He will get the idea... I know it is hard to see your little guy cry (it was hard for me when my two started school), but you really don't want to perpetuate a cycle of this. State your expectations clearly in the morning... "I want you to take sissy's hand and get onto the bus. I will see you after school. Have fun, and I love you!" Be firm (but loving, of course) and don't waver in your convictions. Don't show that you are frustrated with him (even if you are) and don't linger waiting for him to pull himself together (he's putting on a show just for you!) Rest easy knowing that his teacher has undoubtedly dealt with this before, and she can handle the situation. In a few weeks, you'll be able to look back and say to your son, "I'm so proud of how you can go to school like a big kid now!"
2016-03-28 05:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh me, oh my!!!
please make it a point to get with the teacher/school on this one...
remember, and remind them he is ONLY 5. he is still going through alot of changes, and the lunch served that day didn't impress him. i can assure you, if he said....something "out of line" (like i take a bath with my daddy) they would be on the phone with you within seconds!!!! my father-in-law has, and will always use his "middle finger" as a "poker finger" when my son was in the first grade, he was PLAYING with another student, and was "going to get you" using "that" finger...girl, i was in that school, and meeting with the councelor before school was out for the day. i was having to defend the fact he knows NOTHING of any finger being "bad"... or meaning anything other than "poking", or "pointing"...on the other hand if YOU "ask" if they perhaps 'missed' lunch....your child is yanked from the fun....
STAND UP FOR HIM!!!! it was all a simple misunderstanding!!!
on the other hand...there are children (in every school) that are neglected, underfed, and mistreated. the school can't get those parents on the phone, much less, in there for a "meeting"..now, they can add to their little list...."had a situation with little joey, and WE took care of the problem....so in 5 or 10 years, they pull the records, and see where little joey has NEVER lied again....see what a good school we are....
i'm sorry, i got on my soap box.....
keep an eye on him...get a menu, and stay on top of everything!!!
2006-11-02 14:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy Belle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd speak with the principal. Your son already forgets wht he had for lunch he may have just taken what was said out of context as children often do. Remember his age but if that is the story I would talk to the principal and ask them not to dicipline for things that go on at your home
2006-11-08 14:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by mamalittle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can not punish your child for something that happened at home. You need to fight this go as high as you can with this one. If this is what they do with a 5 year old what will happen when he is at that school in the 5th or 6th grade and does something? Also kids do forget there is no proff he "lied" that isn't even the point. Good luck
2006-11-06 09:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by BAR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as an "involved, concerned parent" when you first enrolled your son you would have paid attention to all of the paperwork you had to sign in the very beginning. Schools these days make out 'contracts' concerning attendence, behavior in class etc and the parents are expected to read and sign these contracts. I'd be willing to bet that somwhere in your son's school file is a contract that deals with this issue that YOU signed. I suggest that when you get him ready for first grade you find out ALL of the rules and reguations first
2006-11-03 13:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really weird!! If the child was in highschool and just trying to give you a hard time is one thing but I'm assuming that's he's young and just forgot like he said. I would go up to the school!! I don't think it's the school's place to punish him for something that happened at home even though it was about school.
2006-11-02 14:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go through your school's rule book (the handout that they give at the beginning of the year) and find out where they can punish children for things down at home. Call your Superintendent and see what he/she thinks of the situation.
2006-11-02 14:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by glamorousgrrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HI,
You maybe be a concern mom, but are sure these teachers wont look down at him telling he cheated to his mom?
It may be an embarrassment for him. Some chidlren might be playful and forgetful, so maybe the best way is bringing your son to school and letting the principal know this is not the best way.
2006-11-02 14:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by treesha_006 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋