My daughter is 14 and this is her 2nd year in 8th grade. She does really well the first 9 weeks then she just wont even try. This is causing real problems because her attitude is getting worse also. She dosent hang out with friends after school so I cant ground her from that. Shes not depressed because she is always laughing and has a really good personality other than the school issue. But it affects our realtionship and the realtionship that she has with the rest of the family because she wants us to just overlook the school issue, and I wont do that. She just dosent want to buckle down and do the work.
2006-11-02 13:45:42 · 18 answers · asked by Pooh75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like your typical 14 yr old. They get that age and know it all. This is not always a bad thing. She is rebelling. Try some reverse psychology on her. Try acting like you dont care either. Plus, when she acts like this she is getting lots of attention from everyone telling her she should do it. Have everyone stop doing this and act as if they dont care if she goes or not. Have them talk with her about other aspects of her life. This will take the focus off of this and she will be more willing to go. good luck
2006-11-02 13:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because she laughs a lot does not mean she's not depressed. The fact that she doesn't have a lot of friends she hangs out with, might suggest that she is a loner and lonely. I'd talk to the counselor at her school and ask that she be evaluated for depression. Maybe the counselor can chat with her and find out why she isn't interested in succeeding in school. Is she on drugs or alcohol? You might need to tell your daughter that doing well in school is just a means to an end. It's HER life and you want her to have the best life possible. Without a good education and good grades she won't have as good a life. Maybe you can figure out what she likes best. If she likes little kids, you could tell her that she would make a wonderful teacher someday. But she'll need to get good grades and go to college to do that. If she has a talent, like art, you could take her to visit art schools and find out the admissions requirements (grades, etc.). That might encourage her to get going. You need to get to the source of the problem.
2006-11-02 21:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, calmly over hot chocolate or somethihg and chat with her. Tell her that everyone has a job to do. Her dad (or you) goes to work to pay for your home and keeping the family going. And you also have the job of being a parent.
She has a job to do too. At 14, she has the job of going to school and doing the work. And you are wrong about something, you can go with her to school and make sure she does the work. If you have to, go to school with her. She will get the point.
Meet with the teachers and principal first, make a plan, they are there to help. Get her assignments written down, and then each night sit at the table with her, helping her and checking her assignments. Do whatever it takes to put her on the right track.
I know it is hard because there is so many other things to do every minute that you are home - but you only have one 14yr old daughter---she has to come first.
2006-11-02 21:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with depression can show you want you want to see but inside they're in pain.
That may not be what's wrong with your daughter but think about this......if she had some physical symptoms wouldn't you take her to a doctor right away, would you ask YA for a solution?
This is her life and being in the 8th grade twice is a sign something is wrong.....if she gets too old the next step is she'll stop going to school altogether......get her some counseling and find out what's going on with her.
2006-11-02 21:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's fine...she's 14...don't you remember the age??
So now there's a guy at school and she's dreaming about him and drooling over him all day. How do you expect her to do work and dream at the same time???
For sure she can't talk to her mom, cause mom just wants to yell and talk about homework....put on your thinking cap mom.
It's time to get the job done. Think back to 14 and you will get the answers you need. You can do this, you are a grown up.
She'll be fine..we all made it thru didn't we?
2006-11-02 21:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by J B W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i think you should do is send her to boot camp. i know this sounds harsh but if you want your daughter to graduate high skool and get a diploma and go to college and get somewhere in life then send her to boot camp and hopefully she will learn there. im in 10th grade and im 15. and i try my hardest in skool even though i dont always get straight a's. which i never have got straight a's but its because im not that smart. but at least i try. tell her how her life can be without a diploma and a good job and stuff then hopefully she will understand
2006-11-02 21:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not the end of the world sounds like me in school and now I am doing very well in life so dont sweet it when people like somthing they will excel
2006-11-02 21:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reward her for doing well. but not with small prizes every time she aces a test...look at the bigger picture, like if you get an A at the end of the sememster ill ge t you a playstatiojn or something a little more expensive that she wants...or i f you get 5 100's or something....
2006-11-02 21:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by NotMeorYou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i think that you should at least talk to her to see what is up. If that doen't work, try to motivate her as much as possible. If that doesn't happen, well, you should let her go see a Physiatrist. I hope this works.
2006-11-02 21:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try continuation schools. she could go either mornings or afternoons. Maybe she doesn't like getting up early or staying late.
2006-11-02 21:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by mickey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋