Ugh. I have no idea what to do. Im really into this guy but his ex just broke up with him a few weeks back. He is REALLY sweet and smart. and makes me so happy to be myself. everythinss great and we talk everyday and hang out like 3 days a week but hes bluntly said he still is really shaky about everything. and we have a really great time together and we kiss and hold hands all the time. =). his ex (lets call her leah) left im after a year for his best friend ( he ex will be cody). he thought cody, being his best friend, would never ever hook up with leah but found out recently that he did. he is crushed. and im there for him all the way. but i feel like im hanging myself. setting myself up to fall off a cliff.
he still loves her but his best friends fooling around with her. and i know if she wants him back he will run away. but i know if he gets over her, me and him could be really something. it depresses me and in torn. help.
2006-11-02 13:43:39 · 12 answers · asked by Brittany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
F*uck him in the butt dear.
2006-11-02 13:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say been there done that. I think if things are meant to be they will be. But you must give him time to realize that she's not all that. Once he realizes how much better he can have, he can and will be what you're looking for. Unfortunately, timing is of the essence. In my situation, he waited too long and I had found someone who was willing to give me what I needed. I wanted a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship not a "just friends" relationship. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed talking to him and spending every minute that I could with him, but he just couldn't give me everything I needed, and I knew someone else could. Do I regret not being patient? Somedays yes, somedays no. Life is a gamble, but it is also too short to spin our wheels waiting for things to happen. Good luck in whatever you choose to do...
2006-11-02 21:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse he needs time, but he also has to understand that she "leah" doesn't deserve him. He needs someone to be there. So here's what you do. Be there. Don't force a relationship on him, just gradually let things progress into something more. Hang out with him, ask him to go places with you, and generally just be a friend. He should make up his mind that you're the one for him now, but if not don't waste your time.
2006-11-02 21:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ciavana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it make you happy to be with him now? Then do it. Stop worrying so much about the future and try to enjoy today. He is still hurt over his ex, but he also knows what she is about and will never totally trust her again.
You are afraid that you are his transitional person, but sometimes that turns into more.
Weigh out the pros and cons of just walking away from him.
2006-11-02 21:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back up off of him and give him his space girlfriend! If he told you he was not over her or still in love with her then what are you confused about. If they get back together then you will be the one hurt. He wont be to blame because he has already told you how he felt. ( He probably is or has told her the same thing) Give him space. Maybe he will change how he feels in the future. And you guys will get together.
2006-11-02 21:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him fall for you. He obviously has some feelings for you if he kisses you. Try to get his mind off "leah" and on you.
2006-11-02 21:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take advantage of this guy, when he is devastated. he probably wouldn't be sure about you.even if he says yes to you, he might end the relationship incase his ex calls him back. that would really hurt.you would feel useless.so, let him deal with this.
let him be firm with what's really going on.be as you are with him right now.he would really appreciate it.and who knows, it might help him to change his mind
2006-11-02 21:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by chandni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a real sweetheart to be there for him, but if he's willing to go back to a girl who treated him so badly, he doesn't deserve you. this guy will only break your heart. you're already depressed because of him!
as badly as you want him for yourself, his heart still belongs to someone else.
you deserve so much better than what you're getting from this guy. please get yourself out of this before you get hurt even worse. there are good guys out there who will appreciate you, respect you, and treat you right.
2006-11-02 21:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him, don't rush him. He's hurt and upset, he needs time to get over her. It takes time to get over someone you loved. He has been honest with you about his feelings so don't give up yet. Hold on to your own heart, be there for him with no strings attached.
2006-11-02 21:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Linda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be with him all the time, i think he'll forget his ex cause your always there.
i hope if that happens, the two of you can make a good relationship.
good luck
2006-11-02 21:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by jhen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeeez.lol.you could just ask him out and your problems will be solved
2006-11-02 22:00:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋