This is my issue. I've been in a relationship for 7 years since I was 16, I'm 23 now. She was my 1st girlfriend. Lately I have been going to clubs and I met a girl. I would like to explore this more, I still love my girlfriend, but I need a break. This new girl treats me very special, the way I think a man should be treated. There is no passion in my current relationship. What can I tell my girfriend?
2006-11-02 13:38:33 · 24 answers · asked by djlopez57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we meet new people everyday.and someone affects us in someway.we cant fight it.we are humans.not God.I guess, being in love with your current girl is not everything it is in the relationship.maybe you have longed for more and you never realised it.probably,this girl you just met made you to feel much better, someway.perhaps this is how you wanted to feel or to be treated.7 years of a relationship is very long.and it started when you were a teen.hats off to you, but now you are saying that this girl makes you to feel special.means that you are being appreciated.maybe this is what you expected from your gf. you never had it.there's no growth in your relationship.you guys have stopped explaoring each orther.maybe she thinks she knows in and out of you.but you know there's more.more about you. be frank about your feelings to your gf.she deserves to know on how you are feeling about the relationship.maybe she has an answer too.
2006-11-02 13:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very easy for someone new to make you feel special! It is new, exciting and all she has to do is listen to you and do the opposite to the things that annoy you in your current relationship.
Before you act (whatever you choose to do) you need to sort your sh*t out.
Do you really love your current girlfriend?
There are things you can do to get some passion back into the relationship. Perhaps you should explore these avenues before you do something you regret
2006-11-02 13:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, GOOD FOR YOU for thinking about this BEFORE you have done anything behind her back. That makes me feel so relieved that there are still people that will do that. That is tricky. Uhhh....not going to be easy. I guess you just have to sit her down. Maybe write her a letter and then talk about it with her. I wouldnt really tell her there is someone else. Stick to the reason you dont have passion. Tell her you both are young and should explore the world for a bit. Whatever happens is meant to be. Good luck and PLEASE dont cheat on her. THat will kill everything.
2006-11-02 13:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with this girl for 7 years and still have feelings for her. I wouldn't totally burn my bridges there if I was you because I bet you will be wanting to head back eventually.
Tell her you would like some time to make sure this is what you really want and you may find that she is thinking about it too. She may just not know how to tell you the same thing.
2006-11-02 13:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your girlfriend. If you explain it as you did above she should respect you wishes. Just make sure this new chick is truly what you want. Some times people fake who they are and how they are. Once they get you then they come out of a bag on you.( YOU FIND OUT HOW THEY REALLY ARE!) Either way tell both of them how you feel and why you want to leave the one relationship with your current woman.
Good Luck.
2006-11-02 13:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The name for this is the 7 year itch!!! think carefully because the decision you make now will influence your entire life...oh and if you do go to this other girl, don't expect your girlfriend to be waiting for you on your return. If you go to her its not a break from the relationship, its breaking up the relationship...
2006-11-02 13:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not beat yourself up. You started this relationship when you were a kid.
Your girlfriend could be feeling the same way but is too afraid to say anything.
Tell your girlfriend that you still care for her but you think it's time to let this go. She may have a problem with it but at this point in your life you need to do what will make you happy.
That's what this time in your life is all about....go for it....she'll be fine.
2006-11-02 13:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you need like a week or two to think about things... tell her its not over yet and you dont no if it will be for sure or not.... but a lot of stuff is on your mind and you need to think. just tell her that. if you have been with this girl for 7 years though i think there is a reason why. im not tryin to be rude but 7 years and your just going to throw it away?? i think there must be a good reason while you two are still together you must really love each other
2006-11-02 13:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to break up with someone, and let's face it, that is what you are about to do. Sit down with her and explain to her that you think you both need to broaden your horizons. You got together at a very early age, and you both need to experience relationships with other people before you can decide if this is the right one for you.
2006-11-02 13:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that why they say test the waters before you become committed you need to sit her down and have a serious conversation with her and be honest with her and talk about your relationship and tell her what you'll relationship have been lacking and she if she is willing to make some changes and if not tell her you met some one else and you want to see where it goes but at least you were honest and truthful good luck
2006-11-02 13:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋