How do I sign my child over to the State of Tennessee?? Please do not Sterotype me I have been through alot.?

Question

It all started when my son was 2. He had uncontrolable siesurzes which he was heavilly medicated for. After the siesures he started uncontrolable fits over little things. He is almost 10 now 5 years ago he went into kindergarden. Everything was good until he started Stealing form the other students and teachers constantly disturbing the class running around. For the least to say he failed kindergarden. the next year was the same. So he turned 7 his first time in 1st grade.cut it short he is still in 1st grade at almost 10. He is severe ADHD. From the time he turned 7 and still going on now. He has tried to SET FIRE to 1 apartment twice, our first house 2 or 3 times, our SUV once, our boat once.He steals lies pees on the floor bites holes in everything, is creul to animals fights He steals pencil sharpeners from school and makes weapons. He has been to 3 residental treatment centers. They say nothing is wrong. I fear that one night while we sleep he might hurt me. I feel this is right.

At first before the treatment centers we spanked him But 5min later he was doing the same thing over again. As for bording schools and mental health center will not take him because of his age. The lowest age most will take is 12 to 17. We have tried push ups, sit ups, laps, But let me tell you if a child has decided not to do something you probly cant make him. Also we get monthy to weekly threats that he is going to run away. He has at one point in time tried to do something while I was sleeping I awoke to him standing above me with sissors acting like he was going to stab me.He was 5. As for relationship; I have been in one for almost 5 years.

Answer 1

I know that I am going to get thumbs down, but it is something that I am willing to deal with. I am not a doctor, yet, but I am going to school looking into psychology or something in the medical field. I am also a host home provider, which is taking care of people who cannot take care of themselves.

To me, your son has the earmarks or a serial arsonist or worse. I don't want to scare you, but you are right to get help. Just because you want to have the states help with your son, to me, doesn't mean that you are giving up on your son, but quite the opposite. You may be helping your son. You need to call social services. You need to tell them what you told us. If they won't listen then go talk to a psychologist or psychiatrist. They may be able to help you, either by telling you were to go for help.

You need to do this for you as well as your son. There are people who do studies on these things. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this, but what you are doing is not necessarily wrong. Seek all the help you can!

Answer 2

This boy has far more than ADHD.
There is a true story in movie form that sounds exactly like your son. I can not remember what the child was actually dianosed as having. So you may want to buy the movie and watch it to find out. Here is a link for it.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0103955/#comment
It is called Child Of Rage.

Other than that i think it best to consult an attorney. Some states allow protection for parents wanting to walk in to a hospital or police station etc and give up their babies but it only goes to a certain age of child. At your child's age it would b considered abandonment and maybe even neglect and endangerment for which you could be charged.

He sounds like a psychopath to me. Someone without any feelings for others or ability to feel others' feelings or to feel compassion. Ted Bundy was one.

This is very scarey. Two of the top childhood symptoms of becoming a serial killer is setting fires and abusing animals. The other is bedwetting .

He could have suffered some sort of brain damage during his seizures or heaven forbid it could be a tumor.

Have you tried talking to his medical doctor? Personally i think ADD and ADHD is too often a catch all for everything.

Have you tried spanking during his years from about 5 and up? Was he not held much when he was a baby for some reason?Infants that do not get held often grow up to have severe behavioral problems. Like premies who have to be kept in the hospital and cant be handled for months.

I wish you well with this and will keep you both in prayer. Try talking with a local pastor to get help on doing something like this.

I feel for all involved.And you are right for fearing for your own safety. Kids DO kill their parents sometimes if they are disturbed enough.

Answer 3

It sounds to me as of your at your wits end and it must be very difficult to know what to do in a situation like this I know I wouldn't. If I was you maybe try to sit down and explain to your child the way you are feeling and that you feel like he's backing you into a corner and that you have know alternative but to sign him to state care. I was watching a program the other day narrated by Susan Sarandon called Boken Child I can only suggest you watch it as you are not the only person who has had these troubles. you will see on the program children that are experiencing worse circumstances. Your son sounds like he has these troubles since a young age but I think you should exhaust every possible treatment before signing him over to state care. I don't have a child with ADHD but my childrens father had it and their stepbrother is nine and was diagnosed with it so I have had a child with this problem in my care and let em tell you its scary to watch as it is like they have no brakes is the easiest way to describe their behaviour. I would like to say I understand but who can unless they're in the same situation as you. Good luck and my bestwishes to you and your family I hope you can sort it out.

Answer 4

From what I am reading here you aren't wrong to feel like you do and in a lot of ways the doctors and everyone else has let you down when it comes to getting help for your son. This is far more than ADHD this child is showing signs of bipolar as well as other mental issues and you HAVE to be able to feel safe. As a mother I can not imagine what you must be going through to know that it has came down to giving your son away inorder to feel safe in your own home. I live in Missouri and I know all to well that treatment centers aren't readily available for children of this age because they are considered a mischevious child. There is one in Cape Girardeau Missouri called Cottonwood and at one point they took them as early as 8 however I do not know if they still do or not. A friend of mine has went through this with her daughter for 11 years now. If you are serious about wanting to give him up there are several options you have. One you can take him to the juevenille center in your area and explain all to a worker that can get you in the right direction, two you can go to your area social services and deal with a social worker or if you have a regional center for the mental and behavoir challenged you can go to them and they can send you in the right direction. Another thing that my friend did was got her daughter on ssi and then it was amazing at how many different options she had in getting help and treatment for her daughter. I have been to so many hearings and meetings with her I felt like I was going through it. Good luck to you and as a mother go with your gut.......you know what is best for your child not us or anyone else and feel free to im or e-mail me if you need to.

Answer 5

Im sorry I feel for you.....I couldnt imagine what you are going threw, is their some type of medicine he can be put on sounds like he may have severe emotional problems like bipolar disorder or something, maybe a psychologist could help. I dont know that signing him over would help that may make him feel worthless, or unwanted. Just remember their is something making him be like this I am sure he is not being this bad on purpose. Maybe their is somewhere he can be put and contained and treated for these illnesses, I really dont know what to tell you. I just feel so bad for you.....I will keep you guys in my prayers..God Bless

Answer 6

it sounds like your son probably received a TBI (traumatic brain injury) during one of his seizures. I work full time at a residential center for individuals who have TBI. I see their families suffer every day. He needs to be in a residential setting before he hurts your family or someone else. I f the only way you can do this is by signing him over by all means do it. It is so sad you have been pushed into a corner and made to feel this way someone should have helped you with this a long time ago.

Answer 7

It´s very easy for everyone to talk about your situation when they are not going through it. I believe this is going to be the hardest decision you are going to make in your life, but I´m sure you will do what´s right for the kid AND for you too. If you decide to give him up just make sure he´s gonna be alright.

And I also think you shouldn´t ask for somobody else´s opinion, you are the one who is in this situation, only you can decide and no one should meddle.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Wow! That's really sad. Your kid is not like a dog you can just "give away" when they misbehave. I don't mean to be harsh, but do you know the problems he will have if you do that? If he's bad now, what do you think will happen when his parents don't want him? He needs help, obviously. Please reconsider your options, as I'm sure you will make the wrong one by doing this. Hope it all works out, and my prayers are with you. Hang in there! He needs you.

Answer 9

try having him checked for allergies sometimes people are diagnosed with ADHD and they have allergies instead. He could also be having a reaction to the meds. On the other note my cousin called CPS and volunteered to give up her child and they made arrangements and met up somewhere to pick him up. So maybe you just need to call.

Answer 10

Before you do something like that, have you tried bording school? Also is the biological father in his life. Some boys tend to hold in anger about things like that and seeing mom in unsteady relationships. I don't know your situation but alot of things that go on around him come into play that make kids angry. He seems like an angry and unhappy child.