How do you punish a 14 yr old girl who keeps running away?

Answer 1

You dont. You talk to her and get family counseling. She is doing it for a reason. Something is wrong or she would not do it.

Answer 2

First of all you need to find out why she keeps running away. I am assuming there is a reason or she is simply rebellious. But either way I actually ran away when I was little and my father did the unthinkable and it sounds nuts but it worked. He nailed the windows shut in my bedroom and the living room so they couldnt be unlocked and then he bought those door knobs that can be locked from the inside as well and you cant get out of the house unless you have a key. If you dont want to nail your windows lol (because if they arent wood anyway this wouldnt work) I would go on one of those websites where you can get an alarm that you stick in the window or simply get a home alarm and dont give her the code. Everytime the window opens or a door the alarm will go off and you will catch her. As for her punishment definatly take away all her phone and computer privligages for at least 2 weeks to a month and dont allow her to go out at all. I would make her realize that there are consequences to her behavior. The one thing that might scare her really bad is to call the local police station and ask them for help. Tell them what your daughter is doing and they can threaten her with arrest for being out after curfew. Good luck and hopefully she stays home from now on.

Answer 3

What are her reasons for running away repeatedly?

First find out what is behind the behavior, be brutally honest with yourself when finding the reasons they may well have a lot to do with you if you ar the parent... Once the reasons are known work to resolve the problems causing the reasons then you will have no need to punish her as she will not run away anymore...

At 14 children have the ability to reason and rationalize, while you may not agree with thier reasons for running away you can talk with them and come to an amicable solution... It can be as simple as explaining why a rule they don't like has to be in place instead of using the phrase "Because I said so.." Make the 14 yr old a partner in her growing up not a slave to your rules... She will balk less. and strain at the reins of your control less, when she sees that she has some control as well...

You have 4 years to teach her how to be indipendant why not start now by asking her for a detailed list of 10 punishments she thinks are suitable for her offense... Then sitdown with her and discuss the pros and cons of each punishment.. You will be surprised if you let her explain them and justify why each punishment should be the one chosen, she will likely come up with punishments worse than you could for her misdeeds...

Answer 4

instead of punishing her, try to find out why she keeps running away. There are evidently more serious issues than her being in fear of punishment. Maybe have a moderator present when you discuss this.
Is there a male in the home who may be making sexual advances towards her?
Does she use drugs?
Where does she go and what does she do when she runs away?
Let her know that you care about her without being overbearing and demanding. Talk with her, not at her.

Answer 5

My friend, who's 16, started running away. Her parents threatened to send her away for a while (which they would) if she kept running away. It's been a month or so and she hasnt ran away yet. They also sat her down and asked why she keeps running away and tried to find a way to compromise the situation and get help. I'm not sure why she keeps running away, but you need to sit downa nd talk with her. Don't yell at her, it'll only make it worse, but talk. Let her know that you are there for her.

Answer 6

You should first talk to her and find out why she is running away is there any other person in the house that could be harming her, is she interested in boys? If she is doing that to avoid punishment or being rebelliousmake her stay out of your house until she learns her lesson. When she has a problem she should feel free to talk to YOU! Also, take her to a homeless shelter and voulunteer she needs to be grateful she has a roof and let her know that is where she will end up if shee keeps it up!! ***I HOPE THIS WORKS!!! Tough love is a factor in this case!

Answer 7

When my daughter did it I had the police find her and then when they brought her home I told them I just wanted them to find her and then I didn't let her back in my home so the County had to place her in a group home for runaways, the lesson was harsh, but she came to appreciate home. Some time tough love is the best way to go. Why should you have to always worry about what she is doing or if she is okay, let the County or State take control, if her father isn't around, maybe a trip to see dad would do. Don't let her continue to make you sick, you don't deserve that and if there are other siblings, neither do they. God Bless.

Answer 8

if there is no reason other than she wants to 'go and be and do' then i say lock the doors and windows in the house. call the police and report her as a runaway.

BOOT CAMP or NATURE CAMP.

i looked into nature camp for my ex's youngest daughter. her parents didn't take her because they thought it was cruel and unusual punishment. i thought it was great. now that she is 19, she tells me, "i wish i could have gone so i wouldn't be where i am now".
the nature camp is up to a 2 year program. it is set in the mountainis. the kids have to build their own cottage with tools (take down trees to do so). if they don't want to participate, they sleep outside with no blanket no pillow no nothing. they only get what they give.
i know of 2 girls who did go at the ages of 12 and 13 and now they are doctors. one is doing stem cell research.

Answer 9

You could always sit down with her and without getting mad ask her what about being at home is the problem and then try to work out a solution or try seeing if you have a relative that will take her in for a while so she can see that there are rules no matter where she is.

Answer 10

I ran away 36 times between the ages of 14 and 16, My parents never did me wrong... the best thing they did was put me in a residential home, where I had to work on my problems with myself. Don't let her tear your family apart. When she works on herself she'll be much better off. There are too many things out there much worse than being "locked up"
I wish you the best of luck with your daughter.

Answer 11

Well honestly I don't think punishing her is going to help you. that might make her want to keep doing it. Is there a reason why she is running away? I would seriously think about a reform school, counseling, anything to get her to stop. Try talking to her about it.