What would you do if you were a pregnant teen raise your baby, adopt out or abort?

Answer 1

I myself would raise the baby, I first got pregnant with my oldest as a teen and now I have 3 beautiful children I could not ever give up. It is really a personal decision. Only you know what you truly want. If you want your baby there are places and programs to help you, if you feel your ababy would be better with some one lese then guive it to a loving family. If you beleive in aborition that is your choice, but why destroy something when you could help a loving couple with it? You will have to think about this and it will be hard to know what to decide. If you ever need to talk to someone whos been through it find someone you know or find someone you don't know on the internet. Don't let people tell you what to do, this is your child.Good Luck!

Answer 2

Well sweety its the mothers choice.I can say one thing though.I'd never abort that horrible.Its not that babies falt its there.I was a teen mother with my oldest sons who are now 8 and 7.Then when I was 23 I had gotten pregnant again.Did the year after tooo.That was when my youngest 2 came who are now 1 and 2.So I would say raise the baby or babies.They are great!They are a gift from God for you to enjoy.Plus it took you and the guy to make that baby.If you dont want the baby give it to someone who does.Theres alot of people who cant have children and are looking for children to adopt every day of thier lives.I strongly will say all together dont abort that baby that is pure out murder.So the choice I picked was to raise mine.I love it too.Because thats something very special.You have someone who needs you more than anything in the world.You can teach this young one.Being a mother is so wonderful!So raise it!If you dont thank you can adopt.I went to School and everything.Yeah people started rummors,said mean things,etc.but I didnt let it get me down and went on with my head held high and proud to be a mom.Either way it goes though its your choice not anyone elses.What do you want?How do you feel about this?

Answer 3

I was 16 when i got pregnant im almost 18 now. Im rasing my oldest daughter the 2 baby i couldnt have it to be able to do all the things i need done for me to be able to live. It really hard and yes im still with my babys dad. It's still hard know matter what. I also know this choose that you make is going to the the hardest choose you'll ever make. Well for me I would think what our my opions about this pregnancy. There is raising it, adotion, abortion. Well I've been pregnant 2 and Im raising one and didnt keep the other one. What is Right for you. My thought and Question were:
Raising It: Well can you aford it? Do you have all the time you want or need for the baby? Are you able to have enough patiance when everything just goes wrong. When your a teenager raising it will stop you from being able to go out with friends can't party. Have no time to yourself. Do you have a babysitter for school, work, ect. Do you have a job that makes enough?
Adotion: Well could you live with your self knowing that there is someone else rasing your baby. O giveing birth and just handing it over. Could you Live with your self and not hold judge against yourself? And all the same reasoning as with rasing the baby all the question you need to about this.
Abortion: Wel is it the right time for you to have baby? Can you Live with your self knwoing you can never change what you hand choosen. Is this something your against if so can you do this with out hateing yourself or holding judge apond yourself?
I hope this helped I only know what i thought and what my older sister helped me through and my husband support. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Every person is different. Raising a child is not easy, especially if you are still in school, however, once you carry the baby to term, it may be more difficult for you to put it up for adoption. Abortion is permanent. You cannot take that back. You have to ask yourself what can you live with? Can you live your life with a child to raise and be thankful that God blessed you in this way, or will you regret having a child? Can you put the baby up for adoption and live everyday knowing that child is being raised by another family? Can you live the rest of your life knowing that you terminated a pregnancy?

No one can answer these questions for you, dear, but we (as well as your friends and family) can help you try to figure it out for yourself.

You may want to check with planned parenthood - they have counselors available to help and you can speak face to face with someone who cares and understands what you are feeling.

To answer your question, if I was pregnant when I was a teenager I would have terminated the pregnancy. I would have done so when I was 21 (which is when I first started having sex); however, I also made sure that I used protection and birth control so the chances of me having to actually make that decision were slim.

Before anyone starts lecturing me on pro-life, I want everyone to be aware that I respect all positions. This is an extremely personal topic, and I cannot make a decision for anyone but myself. I will not try to persuade someone to have an abortion, because, like many of you, I feel that it is very drastic - especially when someone makes an adult decision to have sex. My feelings have always been that if you are not ready for adulthood or children, then you should not be having sex.

Looking back, I don't know for sure whether I would have regretted the decision to terminate a pregnancy, had it happened- I have had a miscarriage, and that loss is heart-wrenching. I don't believe I could make that same decision now, but everyone's circumstances are different.

Please, talk to a trusted family member, a counselor, or a close friend. Please discuss this with the father also, it takes 2 to have sex, and to make life-changing decisions. Just remember that the decision ultimately lies with you. You have to do what is right for you, not for your family, not for your boyfriend/significant other, and not for the sake of everyond you speak with.

Inevitably, someone is going to say you made the wrong decision, or think that you were uneducated. Just keep your head up, no matter what, and realize that your support system (family and friends) love you unconditionally.

Answer 5

Raise it or give it up for adoption. Abortion is murder whether anyone likes it or not. The feet of a 6 week fetus are big enough to have a lapel pin to show their size. I have one on my biker jacket to protest abortion.

If you can take good care of the baby and you WANT to care for it and have the patience and energy and help and financial help you will need then raise the baby.Then keep him/her.

If you cant care for the baby properly then give it up for adoption. There are thousands of people out there that would love your baby as their own and give it the best life they could.

Remember, material things do not always mean a good life. If you can at least afford to feed the baby and clothe him/her and provide medical care and in the future provide some extras and lots of love and you want to keep it then do so.

Just dont kill the little thing. The abortion process is horrible. What they do to the baby is horrifying. And you will have to live with the guilt that you had your own baby murdered for the rest of your life. You dont want that.

Answer 6

I would raise my child of course. It's the best option. Unless you can't take care of the baby. Then you could give the baby up for adoption. It's never ever good to abort a baby.

Answer 7

I say keep it. I was 19 when i had my baby boy and there is not one day that goes by that i regret making him it is so fun seeing him grow up and do all these cute things, even if you have to breastfeed and use towel nappies keep it or you WILL regret aborting or puting it up for adoption. (The best moment i ever had with my child is just after i gave birth to him, to just hold that small little creation you made and carried inside of you for sooooo long that is such a unexplainable wonderfull feeling) so go for it and please dont throw it away.

Answer 8

I was 16 when i had my first baby.I did not know of welfare or social services or have any way of keeping my baby.So,i had her and as i was pregnant the doctors and social services had me fill out papers to have her adopted out.My parents said it was totally my choice.So,i had her and she was being adopted out to a doctor in our city.I found out but i wasn't suppose to.To make a long story short,i couldn't do it.I thought that i wouldn't be able to give my baby away.That at least she should have one biological parent in her life.Well,she is 30 years old,now and doing so well in her life.I told her my story and she said the best thing i could have done is to keep her.We didn't live a rich life or even well off but we had each other.There was good times and bad times,rough times,too but we made it.But if you feel in your heart that you can't be mentally and physically there for your baby,then adopt it out,don't make the baby suffer if you don't think you can do it.Good luck to you and i hope all is well.I hope this helps in some way as babies are forever and so precious.

Answer 9

Congrats to all those who raised a baby while being a teen. Good luck to those who think they could raise a baby when they are a teen. Excellent to those who could adopt it out.

I could not. I aborted when I was a teen.

I did and I believe it was what I had to do. I was not killing a child moreso than those who keep a child and give it the shittiest life ever because they resent that child for ruining their lives. NOT to say a child ruins a life, but I have seen mothers in my life who are nasty to their children because somehow those children made it so that they couldnt smoke that crack anymore or visit the bars every other night. I have seen mothers who scream and nag and ***** at any given moment because they are stressed and cant cope and give themselves or their children the very basic necessaties needed in life. I have seen bad situations from those who "dont believe in abortions" and couldnt give that child up. They had all the best intentions in the world for that child as a baby, but as that child grew and became more and more neglected.. well.. that child started lashing out and that mother started resenting and yelling and even beating/spanking. I hate to see it. I hate to know it. But it exists.

I didnt want to become that and I feared I would have because I KNOW I couldnt give that tiny precious baby to someone and walk away in the end after NINE MONTHS of feeling LIFE inside of me.

I admire with the most respect for those who have, I mean, it takes either a very strong person to do it, one who really realizes they are screwed and really want that child to have a better life, or one who doesnt have any feelings at all.. Im sure there are more senarios, Im not going to ramble more than I have.

I dont regret aborting. The father WOULD have stuck it out. I couldnt do life with that man either.

I am HOWEVER, against abortion as a birth control method. If it is rape/insest, a first or second accident, or a broken contraceptive.. I dont judge anyone with that. If it's getting to be your third, fourth, fifth.. well, maybe you should be getting councelling or your tubes tied or SOMETHING..

I have a beautiful girl who's happy, bright and a free spirit which was born through taking the pill and using condoms.. she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I dont regret having her for a moment and Im very happy that I didnt consider abortion at all then. I was mature enough to handle the responsibility.

I hate mothers who "dont believe in abortions" and want to "raise their kids" to find them in the bar a year later smoking pot/crack and getting their parents to watch the baby.. or even worse, someone they barely know and really dont want to know.. they want to go out.

go out and make a poster about that. THAT is what Im tired of seeing in life.

As a person, I would have rather being dead than not wanted.

Answer 10

It depends on if you can provide for the child the way it needs to be provided for. If you are financially stable, then raise the child. If not, please do a family a favor and adopt out. I am totally against abortion.