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So I am attractive (some say beautiful), well groomed, affluent, smart, intelligent, good fun and a great friend / host. The downside? I am a size 16 (US size 14).
I never have boyfriends. Will I ever have a boyfriend at this size? I think I am genetically programmed to be this size as nothing I have ever tried works. Are men ever attracted to someone who is a size 16 ? I seem to get asked out by married men a lot. I think maybe men are embarrassed to be seen with me? What do you think? I am 5 ft7 tall.... I wondered about the embarrassment thing because only married men ask me out. Maybe men only want me as their secret and not to present me to the world as their partner.
You would have no idea if you met me that I lack confidence - I come across as really positive and hap . My friends probably wouldn't even entertain the idea that I was shy if i told them.
2006-11-02 13:11:36 · 9 answers · asked by lou h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way - I have met guys in bars before who have said to my face " I would never date someone as fat as you" or "nice face, shame about the rest of you". It really does wear you out after a time. I am part of a huge social circle and am out a lot so it's not like I am not out there.....
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oh to the people who asked, I am 31 and been single 4.5 years. Before that I just had a few short term things, never anything long term.....
2006-11-02 13:15:07 · update #1
yes, there are guys who'll date you but you are right in questioning yourself.
don't take that for an answer - "I think I am genetically programmed to be this size "
you are smart enough to question - like you say you are "well groomed, affluent, smart, intelligent, good fun and a great friend / host. " As hard it maybe - don't be too hung up on guys - trust me they'll come, learn to love yourself, (that is one very important thing) guys will seek you out. Don't give up exercise and don't eat huge portions. It'll not only bring you love but life as well.
Remember love yourself
2006-11-02 13:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by B N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For somebody that states they have confidence, are happy and positive, you are certainly picking something that for many guys is not a big deal (no pun intended). Some more "well-rounded" ladies get concerned that that's a problem for guys, but it doesn't have to be. A lot of it has to do with how you're carrying it, but 14 is not too terribly bad, especially if you care for your appearance (clothing that accentuates your features, etc).
You're going through a drought right now, the worst thing you can do is start developing a desperate attitude. If married guys are hitting on you, it could just as easily be if you're overly friendly, or if you are spending more time talking to married guys, or there's something else about you that are attracting them (like, you're a certain age and still single; they may see you as an easy and lonely target for some reason).
2006-11-02 13:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My friend, there`s nothing to do with the size if the man really love you. It proved asome merried Men heve asked you, haven`t They? So, just think positive, never let pessimism thought draggin` you down.
The problem is You haven`t had chance hanging out with Single Men. Don`t worry, it just the matter of time. No used in hurry if you got the wrong one. Be patient, just always be yourselves.
You know, the beauty is not just based on appearanced or size, but Your Heart, so that people can see and feel it.
For the time being, some of Men could see it, unfortunately they have been merried...it`s ok...it is the sign, can you see that.
Once a gain, just the matter of time, until a single one could see you the way those whom have seen you before
2006-11-02 13:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by didi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always think that you can look just as good as a size 16 as a size 10 if your figure goes in and out in all the right places. Big hips are considered a sign of fertility and femininity and studies show it is actually more healthy to have larger hips, as the fat on the hips is beneficial in preventing heart disease and diabetes. However, that is only in combination with a smaller waist, less than 32 inches. And we all know men love big breasts so I'm sure they are not complaining there! lol
You could always try weasring a corset to slim the waist and show off your womanly curves. I'm sure there are guys out there who would think you are sexy and gorgeous just as you are, but bars are just a place for shallow men looking for sex to hang out. Try meeting men through some different avenues.
Take care : )
2006-11-04 08:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl i have the same kind of problem I'm in size 7 in pants and xlarge in shirts but i look like I'm a 14 and I've been there but i still look the same and girl let me tell you i had a boyfriend who just loved it so yes you could be like that it is not a problem you will find someone don't worry people are just scared what there friends say that's all. Go Girl you will find him!!
2006-11-02 13:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are men who are specifically looking for larger women, but beyond that I've found that there are plenty who are attracted to a women without considering her size. Sex appeal goes far beyond appearance. I don't reccomend blind dates or setups though, because they will make an immediate judgement based on superficial factors. Get out there, meet men, flirt in a friendly non-pushy way, and it will work out. Remember even the skinny girls go through dry spells.
2006-11-02 13:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what size a 16 is, but as long as your as big, or smaller than me, I'd ask you out. My pic is on my 360
2006-11-02 13:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sweet it someday you will find the guy for you
2006-11-02 13:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you look good
2006-11-04 08:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by baniban2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋