i'm 21 & have epilepsy for a few years now & i wanna make love to my g/f but then i'm scared that i'm going to trigger and i dont know what to do or how she gotta react . .. i'm scared to tell her that i have epilepsy also cuz she might leave me!
2006-11-02 13:10:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honesty is the best policy, she's going to find out someday, probably be better if she found out from you telling her than you having a seizure.
2006-11-02 13:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firts of all, this is to some of the answers, just because you have siezures doesnt mean you arent taking medication already!
Im 21 too and have epilepsy. I've had orgasms trigger siezures in me so its not a silly thing to ask. My boyfriends, however, knew about it, I have been very open with people I spend time with that I have this condition and being around me long enough they are bound to see it. You need to tell this girl. Its nothing to be ashamed of and that must be it because what other reason would there be for hiding from someone you love, heck- hiding it from anyone you spend enough time with that would just need to know what to do and not do if something did happen! Sit down, explain what your siezures manifest as...if shes going to leave for that reason than she is not worth it. And If she does love you, then go get her, cowboy! Just slowly the first time, okay?
2006-11-06 00:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by uberzwitter67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 so you should know by now that you should love her and be loved by her before you make love. If you're not completely sure that she loves you and are afraid to tell her you have epilepsy then I'd reconcider having sex with her. I know that if I were in love with a man... epilepsy, cancer, artificial limb... nothing would cause me to leave them. Tell her! The worst that could happen is that she'll leave you and how is that bad? You will ultimately spend less time finding the right girl for you if that is the case.
2006-11-02 13:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl leaves you just because you have epilepsy, then you don't want to committ to making love to her in the first place. If she deals with it ok, then tell her what the risks are, what may happen, and what she needs to do if something happends. Might be useful to chat with a doctor and find out what he has to say on this topic. Good luck.
2006-11-02 13:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by shepherd169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that you should let your g/f know the truth, since you are sincere with this relationship. If she loves you, she won't leave you, a deeply in loved couple will not leave each another and will help and support each another in return, Do seek medical advise on how you should handle your epilepsy...
2006-11-02 13:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by jollywell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is coming from a women.........real women don't just leave some one they really love because of things like that ....if you know she loves you let her know what is going on .don't keep such things from your girl friend she has a right to know ....once you let her know ,you'll feel less scared about wanting to make love to her .......i really don't think it would trigger any epilepsy attack i have a friend that has epilepsy and he has been with his girl for years now and not once has that happened because of sex .but if the thought crosses your mind still ask your doctor if its possable.............and good luck
2006-11-02 13:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would have to be the biggest b*tch ever to leave you because you have epilepsy. Tell her! Then if anything goes wrong she will understand and know what to do. If she dumps you, you're better off with somebody else.
2006-11-02 13:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by shortcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 11:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with this girl? And why haven't you told her?
There are some things about life that you can't change. Tell her, and if she is really into you ,she'll understand. Tell her before something happens, that causes you to trigger, while she is with you. She will be freaked out if you trigger and she is unaware of it.
2006-11-02 13:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Epilepsy is controllable by medication. Do you take your pills regularly? Talk to your gf and make sure she knows what to do during an episode.
2006-11-02 13:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋