My boyfriend asked me how I felt if went on a break for a while. Not for long though. He wants to spend sometime by himself to see if he likes that better. He's not sure how he'll feel after that. He does work a lot. He said he once cheated on me and he feels really bad about it. I'm not saying we're breaking up completely. We'll still be together. Has anyone been in this situation? Does anyone have any ideas about what I can say to him?
2006-11-02 13:02:16 · 18 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you don't really have a choice since a relationship is 2 people and he's opting out right now. So, let him go with as much grace and dignity as you can muster, and if he wants to return he will.
2006-11-02 13:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is never good, but if you refuse you will probably lose him for sure. Why don't you see if he is willing to set some ground rules with you? Define what is allowed, what type of contact the two of you will have, A set period of time when the 2 of you will get together to re-evaluate the situation, etc. Even though you are not wanting this you need to respect his needs if he is being upfront about his reasons. On the other hand if this is his way of keeping you on the sidelines while he goes out and fools around, I think you have every right to tell him to commit or walk.
2006-11-02 21:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Melanie
I think that you should stand up for yourself in this situation. Tell him either he wants to be with you or not, and if he already cheated on you then why be with him? They always say that they feel really bad, but once a cheater always a cheater. Im sorry hunny, but if he knows that he can get away with it and have you there waiting for him like that then he will use it. It wont end up working out. Good luck though hope you make a good decision.
2006-11-02 21:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by jojo00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably with another girl, he is playing you if a boy cheated on me we over on the spot, but he was honest and if he wants to take a break say " You know what if you want to take a break than we are through" "Bye Bye"
2006-11-02 21:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him ok and tell him iam not going to wait forever,see somtimes they can like another and they dont want to hurt you, so they say they need a break so it want be like he is cheating and if it don,t work with the other person then he come back to you.. iam not trying to put bad ideas in your head but i have had this happen before maybe he do want be a lone only time will tell.
2006-11-02 21:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say,hit the Road,he cheated on you ones,now he needs a break,so he can do again,but its OK,he is not with you,give hem the Boot,he wants to leave you,but he don't like to tell you the truth,Good Luck,Ks
2006-11-02 21:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really like/love him? If so tell him if you want to break up or go on a "break" then you must not really like/love me. I know someone that has been in your position. Trust me he will choose the right thing.
2006-11-02 21:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by naptowns #1 soldier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to have breaks! He's just trying to find out if he really likes you as much as he thinks he does! Trust me...my boyfriend has done this lots of times! And...you shouldn't call him! You need to make him miss you! Make yourself scarce! Seriously...IT WILL WORK!
2006-11-02 21:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Brittni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am gonna say this he has his eyes on someone else, and he is trying to get the easy way out of the relationship to me. I wouldn't make him that easy for him. Whatever you do don't compromise yourself for him or anyone else. Good luck on your choice only you and God know whats best for you ok/
2006-11-02 21:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to break up. Don't hold on to hope, just start getting over him now.
2006-11-02 21:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by happyha31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋