Hi, I am a 26 year old man and have found the perfect girl. She is beautiful, smart, caring, and funny. The one problem is I have a strange fetish that I don't feel I can talk to her about. I am turned on by women sleeping or being put to sleep, whether it be with sleeping gas, hypnosis (a personal favorite), or chloroform. I would never do anything to hurt anyone. I mostly like things like that as portrayed in old spy movies and comic books and hypnosis shows. I feel guilty about having this fetish and wonder if its normal or if I should tell her at all. I would be interested in trying some role play with her but feel she will reject me and think I am disgusting if I mention it. What should I do? I love being with her an am satisfied without bringing my fetish into our sex life, however I would be even more happy telling her about it. So...yeah...that's my question. It's two fold. Is the fetish normal, and...should I tell her or just forget it? Thanks in advance
2006-11-02 12:53:59 · 15 answers · asked by richardflaggwod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a pretty cute fetish, and actually one that I share. I don't know how "normal" any fetish can be ... it's probably more common than you think. I've met three other people on YA with this fetish (unless they are all you under different accounts!!)
I would talk about it with her and ask to role play, stressing that you would never under any circumstances drug her or hurt her in any way.
Even if she's not into it at all, you will feel better for sharing it with her and not having to keep it a secret.
2006-11-02 13:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A fetish is defined as something you need to get off or enjoy sex, so really, I think you just have more of a fantasy.
I personally don't think it is that unusual sounding, especially in a role playing scenario. Is there a way you can get her talking about her fantasies? I've found in my relationship, talking about them without pressure to do them at that moment is helpful. I've tried lots of different things I never would because my bf at the time gave me time to wrap my mind around something, rather then just surprising me by asking at the moment he wanted to do it.
2006-11-02 21:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by emt42 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No offence but I find that a little on the creepy side...I would never let someone put me to sleep..first of all for the danger involved with that alone and secondly for the thought of what the hell is he going to do to me while I'm asleep?? Even if you say it's an innocent fetish, I'd be very concerned. If I were you I would keep that to yourself.
2006-11-02 20:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cats Meow ;) 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Tough call.
Try mentioning it to her, but in a fun way. Keep it light and playful.
She still might not like the idea, but at least you will know where you stand on the subject.
2006-11-02 20:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people have some kind of fetish...having one is normal, but yoursis unique. First I've heard of it, and I thought I heard everything! lol Tell her. She might have one to tell you. If you want her to indulge in you in yours, you can encourage and help her be creative with hers.
2006-11-02 21:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask her to role play but never to actually go for putting her to sleep. I would be so freaked out!
2006-11-02 20:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow.. well i think you should tell her. because she might figure it out sooner or later..if she rejects you then she might not be the one for you.. i understand that you really like her and all.but if she doesnt accept who you are then she might not be the one.. in my opinion i say you tell her whats going on and tell her your interest.. if she just doesnt say anything about it then good.. but dont get her involved in it if she doesnt want to ok..
PEACE
2006-11-02 20:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Yhpargotohp 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, I dunno what to tell you. I find your fettish a bit strange, yes, but I wouldn't freak out or anything if I was that girl. but I'm not and I don't know what she's like. you do and seeming as you have doubts (apparently, your asking online people) you should probably wait til you know HER better. or forget it if you can, that option is up to you.
2006-11-02 20:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by JJK789 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, I wouldn't say anything to her unless it gets really bad. People have their things. That's just the way it is. I wouldn't act on it though.
That's my opinion.
You do what you think is the right thing to do.
2006-11-02 20:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by aureliusrocker 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes I thing that you should let her know. You are not young and its not type to be playing games. Just be honest. Don't wait till the end.
2006-11-02 20:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Linda Lopez 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋