Is 6 yrs a big difference?

Question

Im 20 and my bf is 26. do you guys think that is big difference? We both plan to get married, kids etc.

Answer 1

No! 6 years is hardly anything, and it feels like less of a difference as you get older. The most important thing is whether the two of you have similar levels of maturity and connect well on important life issues.

Answer 2

6 years is not a big difference IF you are both mature and respect each other. My ex was 6 years older than me and we dated for 8 years until I was 24 years old. I felt that he purposely chose to date younger girls/women in order to control them (he was very immature - in fact only now at the age of 36 is he even starting to grow up). Our 6 year age difference was a lot at that age.

But as you get older, you learn that age doesn't matter. You've heard it before but it starts to mean something when you love someone for who they are - not because they are in a certain age bracket.

I do however believe there are limits to the age difference. No more than a generation gap when you are younger than 40 years. Your amibitions, goals, careers, families and the directions of your lives are at two different stages and you have such different needs and requirements in all of these areas. Not until you are 40-50+ when most of these needs & requirements have already been met, do you begin to just relax and enjoy life and what it has to offer.

Answer 3

Hey, I met my Emma when I was 20 and she was 25. It was a slow realisation that took me by suprise. Then I realised we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. All I'd suggest is don't rush it....have fun, and carry on living with your life and seeing all your mates. We didn't get a place together for another 3 years - it just felt right then. Another 2 years and I guess Em, finally got bored with waiting and asked me to marry her......Whoopie! However the age difference never goes away. I've just turned 30, Em's 35 and biology dictates that we should have kids soon...and we want them .....but you never feel quite ready.....

Answer 4

That's a very small age gap in my mind. I'm 29 and my husband's 39. We've been together since I was 22 and he was 32. It all depends on whether you're going in the same direction and want the same things from life. The main thing is that you can laugh together and stick together when things get tough, as they sometimes will. Age is meaningless. It's the people that count.

Answer 5

Absolutely not. My wife is 4 1/2 years older than I, and it makes no difference. I have a friend who is 59 and her husband just turned 88! I have another friend who is 63 and her husband is 85. Age is of no importance. It is the love and respect two people have for one another. Just treat yourselves as equals. Give 90% to your relationship and expect only 10% back, If he does the same thing, you will have a wonerful life.

Answer 6

As a parent, I think you are too young to get married. In five years, the gap won't even be an issue. Not so much a difference when you get older. Just be happy.

Answer 7

you feel enough for the guy to want to make plans to marry, have kids etc, and yet you are allowing 6 years age difference become an issue!

either you love him or you don't - regardless of the age difference!

Answer 8

6". Did you say 6". Sorry. No not really, but unfortunately 9 years difference after 17 years of marriage is now the reason the wife is divorcing me. I Know! am not Perfect.

Answer 9

This is no difference at all. Age difference is of course relative in any case. I am 52 and my girlfriend is 30. I did not want a younger girlfriend and she was not interested in older men...but we met...we fell in love.

Love is all about people, if there is a mathematical formula...be sure to get it copyrighted!!!!

consider the feelings you have for each other...not abstract things like numbers!

Answer 10

Not at your age, any younger though and the age difference is more important. It also matters on your own personal maturity levels, if hes just a big kid then your fine!!