i have had a crush on a friend of mine for awhile. and i can't figure out what his type is he has dated all different types of females. i figured i'm not is type because he hasn't tried to date me. so last month i called and told him that i liked him. he told me i was to classy and a saint but not his type. well i left town for a month and i have made myself over i have lost 50 lbs and have grown my hair out and got it strighten( took the natural curls out). and now i look really good. i know this because i've have more than a few guys ask me out in one day. the problem is i'm supposed to meet him tomorrow night at the bar with a few other friends. if he is intersted now should i let the fact that he didn't want me before i lost the weight and changed myself bother me. i mean i'm still the same person on the inside. and if i shouldn't let it bother me, should i play hard to get? i really do like him but i want him to like me not just for what is on the outside.
2006-11-02 12:49:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, you think it's shallow if he likes you now, but you want to play games like "hard to get"? That is stupid. If he likes you better now, it might be because you lost weight, or, more likely, because you have more confidence now. Or, he might feel exactly the same about you--can you handle that?
2006-11-02 12:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My woman has a slim medium build. That is the body type I am attracted to. If she suddenly went up about 50 pounds I would not love her less or more. Just the same. That's because I have gotten to know her as a person. But the reality is I was first attracted to her physically. We all have our "druthers".
That's a little different from your situation. Why not just go out, have fun and stop worrying so much about establishing a relationship.
2006-11-02 21:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I would torture the poor fellow.
If he's checking you out and flirting, then take the compliments with a smile. Return them in fact.
But if he asks you out, say 'no, you're not my type'. He'll either get the hint and apologize profusely or he won't and who wants some daft guy anyway?
2006-11-02 20:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tries to ask u out, 1st play hard to get, then ask him to giv u reasons y he didnt want u in the 1st place but wants u back now.
If he hesitates to ans, then u shuld know better than me that he's juz a material boy. N DON'T get charmed by his antics! keep a clear mind.
2006-11-02 21:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno wwhat youre going through and let me tell you if he does look at you now and wants to be with you let him suffer just a lil bit after all he had his chance to talk to you but then you dont want him to not think youre interested so just be yourself and the rest will follow if that doesnt work then e-mail me and we can talk oddball212000@yahoo.com
2006-11-02 20:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy_chocolate26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give him a chance. The only way to tell at first is by looks so you cant blame him if he likes you better now.
2006-11-02 20:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny Smooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is your most definitely wasting your time, if he didn't like you before he'll never like you, now that your thinner he may hit it thow.
2006-11-02 21:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by spir_i_tual 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thet you should just act like yourself and let him get to know the real you better, and if he still doesn't like you its his loss.
2006-11-02 21:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way that is going to happen is to keep him as a friend and nothing more .Good luck.
2006-11-02 20:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by macki4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip. Do you like him or not? If you do go for it. If you dont, dont waist iether of your time.
2006-11-02 20:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋