We have 3 children together, and there has always been talk about it, We have even been engaged for quite some time but the bottom line is we are still not married.
2006-11-02 12:34:00 · 18 answers · asked by meeka1125 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meeka, I hate to say this, but, darling you've wasted so much of your life on this one relationship. 16 years is TOO long to be with someone and not have the commitment of marriage. From experience, I know that it only takes a guy about two years to know if you're "the one". It's so easy just to settle; and when a guy realizes that you're the type of female who is comfortable with his arrangement (living together), they don't force the marriage deal. I know you have children for this guy, but, honestly, you and your children need to go,, get a place of your own; and you need to start a new life... maybe then he'll get the hint. Good luck!
2006-11-02 12:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by A Lady @ ALL Times 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Like, in the evening when the kids are in bed, sit down with him and take his hands and look him in the eyes, and ask him about the whole marrying thing. Perhaps consider asking him about making some loose marraige plans or something. He seems to love you, and if you're engaged, maybe you need to just give him a little push in the right direction.
2006-11-02 20:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him together and demand crystal clear answers about it. If u had known each other for say 2-3 years, I would say that u give him a 3 months ultimatum and c what he says if he truly loves u. But 4 ur case it is passed that stage. Alternatively, jump in2 the driver's seat and do whatever is required till it is done instead of waiting for every thing from him. Best of luck
2006-11-02 20:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by badboy22bs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the incentive of getting married?
In some states that's considered common law marriage.
My guess is that things are too comfortable. You say that you've talked about it but you have to be adamant about what you want. Tell him to set a date!!
2006-11-02 20:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by cece 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was a real man that respected & loved you I'd married you before makin the babies, If I was less than a man or didn't love you I would live with you till I find something better.
2006-11-02 20:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by aneagleheart13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you deserve to be married. Not used. If he doesn't want to get married he won't . If you give him a choice, be willing to accept it. Personally, I would kick him to the curb. But I am not in your shoes.
2006-11-02 20:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you are married to someone, quite often you stay with that person because of legal issue's etc if you leave, but if you live with someone and stay together it's because you want to
2006-11-02 20:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by deejayspop 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you and your fiance should set a date for when your gonna get married
2006-11-02 20:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say at this point what's the upside for him to take that leap and marry you?
2006-11-02 20:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, marriage does save tax money heh... I dunno, have you talked to your fiance about it? See what he thinks. Don't nag though, obviously that would just push the guy away. Just try to talk about it and see where each of you stand on the issue.
2006-11-02 20:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋