I like this girl, we just met last month but seem to have a lot of common interests and similarities, but she only wants to be friends, but I know its because I'm a "nice guy" and she only dated jerks in the past, so how do I get it past the "just friends" and get a date or 2 out of it? I have this problem a lot with women because the fact that I'm ACTUALY a nice guy seems to throw them off, so what can I do without being a Jerk?
2006-11-02 12:27:55 · 11 answers · asked by Dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there sweetie,
I know exactly what you are talking about because I have a friend who would love to propose marriage to me but the spark just isn't there for me.
Here is what I would suggest.
1. Take the time to make yourself look like a real hottie or at the minimum get some styling clothes and a haircut to make the most of your image.
2. Invite her to several events you both mutually have an interest in and have several other people around so that she can get to know you in a less threatening manner.
3. After you have had the chance to get more comfortable around each other than let her know that you would like to be more than a casual friend to her.
4. Ask her openly to think about it and if she does feel some spark of attraction for you that you would be more than happy to accomidate her.
5. Reassure her that even if she can't feel that way towards you, you still respect her and value the friendship between you.......you would just like to be able to give her a lot more than that; if she will let you.
I hope this helps.
Good luck and God bless.
Hugs,
2006-11-03 10:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by sworddove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do thoughtful things for her, but don't over do it. Maybe give her a flower or another modest "gift" or gesture - tell her it made you think of her and you thought she might like it. Tell her she looks nice and pay her honest compliments, but don't patronize her. Just be nice to her and make sure she knows you are doing it because you think she is special. If she is interested, she will realize she enjoys the way you treat her and want to spend more time with you. If not, it was not meant to be. Never forget, there are lots of nice girls looking for a guy like you - they just haven't found you yet. Good luck.
2006-11-02 12:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sort of jerky. but not too much. like stop ansewring all her calls. and check out other girls when shes around. in the middle of conversations look somewhere else and pretend you arent really listening. do little things like that. it wont make u a jerk, but it'll make her realize that you're way better than any of the jerks shes dated and you arent going to wait for her forever.
and if that still doesnt work, shes not worth it. theres plenty of women out there who like nice guys! you just have to look for them a little harder.
2006-11-02 12:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by =] [= 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't change who you are just to get a girlfriend. There are a LOT of nice girls out there who would love a nice guy. I married one myself. I think that you should just continue to be who you are and just let things take their course. If she begins to like you for you, cool. If not, move on.....
2006-11-02 12:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try being less nice. If a jerk is what they want then by all means BE A JERK!
2006-11-02 12:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look for ACTUALLY nice girls......not those willing to date jerks.
2006-11-02 12:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a jerk.
2006-11-02 12:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bob G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could try being classy. It works for George Clooney...
2006-11-02 12:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her she looks HOT and stuff like that. flirt w/ her alot and stare at her it makes guys look stupid and girls LOVE it!
2006-11-02 12:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop acting like one
2006-11-02 12:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by ana l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋