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So I am attractive (some say beautiful), well groomed, affluent, smart, intelligent, good fun and a great friend / host. The downside? I am a size 16 (US size 14).
I never have boyfriends. Will I ever have a boyfriend at this size? I think I am genetically programmed to be this size as nothing I have ever tried works. Are men ever attracted to someone who is a size 16 ? I seem to get asked out by married men a lot. I think maybe men are embarrassed to be seen with me? What do you think?
2006-11-02 12:22:53 · 27 answers · asked by lou h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention I am 5 ft7 tall.... I wondered about the embarrassment thing because only married men ask me out. Maybe men only want me as their secret and not to present me to the world as their partner.
You would have no idea if you met me that I lack confidence. My friends probably wouldn't even entertain the idea if i told them.
I have met guys in bars before who have said to my face " I would never date someone as fat as you" or "nice face, shame about the rest of you". It really does wear you out after a time. I am part of a huge social circle and am out a lot so it's not like I am not out there.....
2006-11-02 12:35:03 · update #1
oh to the people who asked, I am 31 and been single 4.5 years. Before that I just had a few short term things, never anything long term.....
2006-11-02 12:39:55 · update #2
Hey lou h,
Sometimes we got to look back to see who's in a much worst position than we are. You're so blessed to have so many virtues and qualities like those. Just be yourself and in no time you will catch someone's attention for good.
2006-11-02 12:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. But guys do find me attractive as they do you. The right guy will ask you out. Patience is what you need. It's hard I know, but that is better then feeling down about yourself. Take it one day at a time and think about those great qualities that you mentioned and any others you didn't. And as for the married men being embarrassed. I don't really know, but if they do? They are real jerks!!! So bad of guys, that you don't even want to consider. You deserve better than that! We all deserve better than that! Be patient, be aware of the jerks and always believe in yourself in the most positive way! God bless, and I am on your side!
2006-11-02 12:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by *Balanced*Sweetheart*Always* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real man will have you for a girlfriend for who you are, not what size you are! Beauty is only skin deep. I have dated many ladies in my life, some even larger than your size. They were very lovely people and even today, I still maintain a friendship with one of them. I met her 40 years ago when we were both 20. She got married and a few years later divorced. I am married for many many years. Many young men are attracted by size and think with their penis, not their brain. If you are a good person, the right man will come along, be patient. Beware of married men. They only want you for sex. If you can understand that and know the relationship will go no further, go for it. Why shouldn't you be sexually satisfied. In saying this, I hope you are over the age of 18. Finally, I am over six feet tall and weigh a little over 300 pounds. My wife loves me, and yes, whe wishes I were thinner (for my own health and well being).
2006-11-02 12:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't get a good man even if you're a size 2 with a self-esteem like this. Sweetheart - men are physical creatures, yes... but they also have emotional needs just like you and me. If he's shallow enough to only want someone if they're physically perfect, he's not good enough for you in the first place. Just so you know, size 14 is not that abnormal. If you're worried about your health, do something simple but beneficial for your body like walking 30 minutes a day... but ONLY do this for you! I'm a curvy woman myself (I've always struggled with my weight, and am also a size 14 right now)... but I'm beautiful - inside AND out! I pity the guy who passes ME up ;)
2006-11-02 12:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by ReNeOuS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not, you are not big. Todays society pushes and image that is totally unacheavable. It isnt your size besides that is a healthy size. I am a size 16-18 and i am married and young by the way...you will find someone, dont go to drastic measures just so you "will shape up". That is totally dumb. I am sure you are a beautiful girl and just need to wait and be confident in yourself! stay beautiful by being true to yourself sweetie!!!
2006-11-02 12:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by hermiasdeath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always been voluptuous. I have always had a man. When I was in school I was on the track team and I had guys from different schools fighting to get a chance to spend time with me. Truly there are a lot of fellas out there that like women with some meat on them. Curves are SEXY! You will find someone I am very sure.
2006-11-02 12:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by princessPixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A size 16 is not big especially if you consider your height and body strxr. There are some really cute clothes these day for the full figured girls. I don't think that guys really care about the size of the woman. I think hygiene, personality, and confidence matters to them more when they are considering date/friend/wifey material. I have seen small guys with big girls and big guys with small girls. Don't worry about it. Strut your stuff with dignity and pride and someone (hopeful someone of good character) will be drawn to you.
2006-11-02 12:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My cousin, who is a size 16 US, has a wonderful boyfriend. She has had many previous relationships, and was the same size. You just have to open up a bit more, and find a broader range of people to see.
2006-11-02 12:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not get down on yourself. Please don't let your size dictate whether or not you think a guy will want you. Guys want positive girls, and they can sense if you don't find your self attractive. Please do not let your pants size dictate how you look at yourself. If you see yourself in a positive light, men will too. You're not doomed to be single for the rest of your life, trust me.
Side note: Marylin Monroe was US size 14, and look how many men find her attractive still today.
2006-11-02 12:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by D S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry abour your size. So enough you will fine that right and special person. Is just takes times cuz some men and women are dumb and think that size matter went it has nothing to do. Just relax .... DON'T LOOK FOR LOVE ... LOVE WILL COME TO YOU ... went you least expect it
2006-11-02 12:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by ShyGuy1013 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋