hi am notmelody i am kyika her first cousin. I am a mother of a five year old daughter Ella i had her when i was 15 from date rape now i am 20 and i met this really nice guy he asked me to marry him so we had a small wedding in vegas 3 monthes ago we barely had sex or see each others body and every time we try i get things in my head about what happend AND YELL NO what should i do
2006-11-02 12:19:40 · 13 answers · asked by melody p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need counseling. NOW. What your feeling is normal aftershocks of being raped, however in order to have a healthy marriage and sex life you need to see a professional.
2006-11-02 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course like everyone else has suggested, I feel you should go to counseling. Rape is hard thing to get past, and trusting someone again is really hard. A lot of bad memories come back when we are provoked in a certain way. But know, things will get better with the proper help.
2006-11-02 13:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by jrw3571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek professional help. If you can't afford it, try to contact a local women's shelter and see if they can assist you in getting counseling. If you haven't told him about the rape, you need to do so. It sounds as though you have suppressed a lot of your feelings regarding what happened to you. You need help to work through these memories and feelings.
2006-11-02 12:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek the advice of a professional. There are many resources out there to help you. If you cannot afford it there are places that are free. One that I know for sure is ADV & SAS the toll free hotline is 1-800-892-3375. It is a 24 hour line. Please, for the sake of your child, your marriage, and most of all YOU--call them they are trained for your type of situation and more! I wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-11-02 13:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by dpbuck10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop thinking about that bad stuff and move on that person is still raping you as long as you think about it. Take control of your life lift your chin up and then the tables turn on that prick that did it to you. Its all in your head and you control your own head right?
2006-11-02 12:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by mustang_silverado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get professional help there is going to be nothing we can say to make it better it's going to take time a long time.
2006-11-02 12:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Shonreaq G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is not the place to find that answer...you need to see a professional.
2006-11-02 13:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly suggest that you get counseling to help you deal with all that has happened.
2006-11-02 13:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by kateek2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seek therapy so that you that you can have a healthy, happy relationship with your husband.
2006-11-03 01:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL DID SHE GET COUNSELING?
AND IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE AND THEY LOVE YOU WHY NOT TELL THEM THE SITUATION SO THEY CAN UNDERSTAND BETTER WHY YOU GOT MARRIED AND DON'T WANT TO BE TOUCHED
2006-11-02 13:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by shonta_stanley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋