my boyfriend does not find time to call me . he says he is busy always. i feel negleted. what should i do?

Question

he calls me in the morning and never calls back during the day. he says he is busy. i feel really horrible when i cannot talk to him. up to the point that i get sick. i cannot call him at work only he can call

Answer 1

You need to get over your dependence on his calls to you so that you can feel better. This sounds like a self esteem issue. Lots of people would be grateful for a call once a week. You could be driving him off with your neediness. You may need therapy.

Answer 2

I went through this the past spring. Other people are reading into it like you are some doormat but really you are probably feeling sick because you know in your heart of hearts that something is going on & he's keeping secrets from you. I don't know how long you've been together but no matter what, it's hard to fix a relationship when only one person is trying. In my opinion, you need to be strong & break up with him or at least take a break from each other. I broke up with my boyfriend for a couple months this summer & things are MUCH better than before because he got through his "phase" of always being "too busy" & he realized how much I meant to him & that what we had was really special. So again, it's not easy, but you can do it. Be strong. And who knows- you just might find someone else out there that can respect you; nothing says you HAVE to go back to him at the end of the break.

Answer 3

Sorry hun, but u have to realize one thing, desperate circumstances require desperate solutions! Get yourself a "back up"! Don't put your life on hold because of a lousy dude who is "always too busy" to call u. If he is too busy now (after "getting u" where did he get the time to ask u out, and call possibly many times a day when he was still chasing u) or he wasn't working by then? Best of luck

Answer 4

Don't get mad at this: First I must say that you seem to be very clingy, which is actually cool to me. I like when a woman gets clingy with me. It's flattering to know that someone enjoys me so much that they want to be around me all the time. If I'm really into the woman, then it's an amazing experience (even including the inevitable arguments that would come with constantly spending time with someone). However, if I'm not really into her it becames annoying and pitiful and we will definitely drift apart.

In your situation you must understand that it is completely logical that he may not be able to speak to you until he gets off from work. I think you would have something to worry about if he didn't call in the morning. But, he does...and he doesn't have to. Be honest to yourself about your feelings for him. If you aren't getting the attention you desire or you don't think your affection for him is being returned, then leave. Leave now! Spare yourself the heartbreak that no one wants to go through, but no one seems to be able to avoid. However, if this relationship is something you want to hold on to stay with him, stop complaining about not being able to contact him at work (you want him to actually have a job don't you?), and cherish the time that you have with him and pray that it leads to something more permanent....that is, if that's what you want.

Answer 5

Maybe he really cannot call you at work. Does he call after work? If he does, then this is probably not a problem.

You need to talk to him and find out what's wrong, if anything. Let him know that you feel are neglected and he will find a way to work it out with you.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You really need therapy if you get sick because your boyfriend can't call you during the day. He has a life and you need to get your issues dealt with so you can have one too.

Answer 7

tell him how you feel, like dah.
i'm sick of girls to scared to tell their boyfriends anything, if he really cares he'll either explain or make more of an effort,at l;east he calls you everyday, maybe your being a litlle padantic, be comforted by the fact that you are loved and cared for, you shoulsd not need to be reasurred of that fact every hour okay

Answer 8

I'm not trying to be mean, but accept it for what it is. He's just not that into you. When men want you, they ALWAYS have time. You have to break up with him, but I would suggest stop calling him and find other things to do. Either he'll wake up and make time for you, or you'll break up and it will be OK because you will be used to not having him around anyway.

Answer 9

well you need to understand that he is busy with work. maybe he's preparing for your future right? be thankful that he has time to call you everymorning. it means that your the first thing that comes to his mind when he wakes up. thats sweet right?

i advice that you set-up a weekend activity for the two of you so that you wont feel neglected.

Answer 10

If he is at work then you must understand he can't stay on the phone with you at all times. Maybe try finding something to pass the time til you can talk to him again.