I have a great relationship with all my exes-as friends. It's good to know that they are doing well and are happy, and i think the fact that we have spent a year or more as the most important people in each other's lives is not something that should be thrown away forever. so why does the person that was once a particularly important one, as in, the person who was closest to 'the one' in so many ways, not want to have anything to do with me anymore? it's not to do with lack of feeling, i know that, because we were as close as any two people could be. but now..well...it's as though he would rather pretend I never existed, and i don't understand why. i don't WANT anything from him, I'm happily engaged. I just care about him is all, and find it hard to understand why he is happy to not know or care or respond to me in any way when at one stage all that mattered was me to him and him to me. hmm what do you think?
2006-11-02 11:58:00 · 28 answers · asked by rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're engaged.....what the hell do you care. Look, he's moved on...why don't you. Hmm.....perhaps you hate the idea that he's over you.
2006-11-02 12:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by oaparicio2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still hurt that you and he are no longer together. You didn't say how long you have been broken up, but I think there is some anger and jealousy boiling in him somewhere. You also sound like you've had quite a few boyfriends, where you in love everytime. Maybe he was one that was truely in love with you. It will take him some time to get over the hurt and pain he may be feeling, if not get over the fact that you cannot always be friends with the exes.
2006-11-02 20:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Linda R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you have a problem letting go.......it's perfectly normal to not want to talk to an ex, it makes life easier. You do want something from him, you want for him to care, and maybe he needs something different, like not to care. At one stage you were all that mattered to one another, but that stage isn't where either of you are anymore. Allow him to move on, maybe when he feels comfortable with where he's at he'll get back in touch, or maybe he just doesn't want to be with you anymore, in any way.
2006-11-02 21:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by elise h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....some people take breaking up as just that''breaking up''
the two of you broke up for a reason that you failed to mention.
I can only assume that someone cheated?
if you did that then i don't blame him for the lack of enthusiasm when you smile so pretty!
you are engaged so move on with this special some one and be happy, leave the others alone and be happy.
In all honesty if you break up, he shouldn't be on your mind so much, after all you are ENGAGED so you say.
get over it.
2006-11-02 20:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...you're going off the market which means the door is all but closed to the two of you possibly getting back together in the future. Whether, he really wanted to or not, it's the hard pill to swallow to have been so close to 'the one' and now the closest thing is moving on. ...that we would leave me a little distant for the time being.
2006-11-02 20:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Omni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really cared about you and now he is hurting. Seeing you engaged to someone else is the deepest wound of all.
If it was you who called off the relationship, then no wonder he is ignoring you. If your fiance is the most wonderful man in the world to you, then why even bother with your ex? Leave the man alone, let him heal.
2006-11-02 20:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r "happily engaged" why do u feel the need to know what yr ex is doing ?
what doe's yr fiance think of u communicating with yr ex, i know i wouldn't like it !
pls try & move on, it's over & u need to acept u have no part (nor should u have any intrest) in his life now - if u r being honest with yr feelings x x
2006-11-02 20:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee, do the words Shattered and Confidence ring a bell? If not, then say them together and research their meaning. Chances are the 'ex' takes 1 look (or even 1/2 a look) and sees mistakes he made or opppourtunities he blew to make it better with you.
2006-11-02 20:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Keyser S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in your first sentence "ALL my exes"
I'm glad you are happily engaged and I hope it works out but just leave exes in the past. You might want their approval but this guy obviously dont want yours ! Concentrate on the present realtionship and leave ALL the exes in the past.
2006-11-02 20:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this may sound stupid but the poor chap probably still has feelings for you and cant get over the fact your going to be getting married to someone else and is trying to forget about you by just blanking you completely
2006-11-02 20:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋