MY GF WONT HARDLY TALK TO ME SHE DOESN`T HAVE A REASON NOT TO. SHE IS PREGNANT I REALLY LOVE HER AND WANT TO SAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP BEFORE IT IS TO LATE I TRULY LOVE AND CARE FOR HER I AM GOING TO COLLEGE AND GO HOME TO SEE HER EVERY WEEKEND I SEND HER LETTERS AND ON HER BIRTHDAY I SUPRISED HER WITH FLOWERS AND A CARD I MADE FOR HER I LOVE THIS GIRL LIKE NO OTHER WHAT CAN I DO SHE SAYS SHE AINT HAPPY BUT WONT TALK TO ME ABOUT IT WHEN SHE DOES TALK TO ME IF I DONT SAY ANYTHING FOR FIVE SECONDS SHE IS READY TO HANG UP THE PHONE WHAT CAN I DO PLEASE HELP
2006-11-02 11:54:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, don't come on too strong. Remember that she's pregnant--not to sound sexist, but pregnancy can be weird and distressing sometimes because women's hormones are raging and they're also thinking about life and the future and babies and their bodies and...you might not be the first thing on her mind. It might not be anything personal. But if she needs some space and you don't give it to her, she might really resent you for not trusting her to do her own thing. Then, it *would* be personal.
If she wants space, give it to her. I know you want to be supportive, but it's not supportive to make somebody feel smothered when she wants some time on her own. Just let her have a little time off--let her have time to miss you and remember what she had with you. If she wants more from you after that, let her know it's cool and you'll be there when she's ready to come back. What she needs right now and what you want might not be the same thing...you just have to do what's right for her and put your own feelings aside for a while.
I'm not saying what you're doing is wrong, but it might just be the right thing at the wrong time. If she's not happy...*she's* not happy. It's *her* thing. If she can't tell you what she wants, she needs to do some work on her own to figure it out. Suggest she takes some pregnancy classes, y'know, like exercise or Lamaze, something like that. Have her talk to women who know what she's going through. Sometimes you just gotta let a woman do her thing.
2006-11-02 12:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by SlowClap 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask her first what is wrong and what she hates about the relationship. Because she's pregnant, she might be needing a little more of your patience and understanding. Show her that you are willing to stand by her side no matter what happens. Wait for some time. With all these efforts, and she still think she's unhappy, think if you really must continue the relationship because letting her go is the best option.But I do hope you can fix your relationship with her. Goodluck & Godbless!
2006-11-02 20:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Monzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed - is she as excited about the baby as you are? You are propably not doing anything necessarily wrong but if she thinks of it as a mitstake to get pregnant then she might be dealing with that. Talk to her and see how she really feels about the baby cause if she doesn't want it, she might resent you for wanting it so bad. Good luck.
2006-11-02 19:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by ELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep trying to talk to her. her hormones are out of wack right now.. but honestly.. you are away at college right? im sure she really really would like for you to be aroud more.. but might not want to say it and sound selfish.. women need to feel beautiful and cared for all the time and i assume its a much more of a demand when you are pregnant!!
2006-11-02 19:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u sure it's ur baby.. and if so then she's probably just having mood swings... u pregnancy does make women emotional.. why not just talk to her and see what's wrong.. could be that ur not there for her or going to her doctor visits and stuff.. weekends r not enough...
2006-11-02 19:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is pregnant, so she is probably hormonal. They can really do a number on emotions. Give her a day then call again.
2006-11-02 19:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of Scott Peterson!
2006-11-02 19:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep calling her... call her mom if she won't answer.... u have to make her talk to u or ask a relative whatz wrong, like her mom or a sister, or a best friend or somethin
2006-11-02 19:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry - and I know it's not what you want to hear, but I'm with Dynamite3 - are you sure the baby is yours?
2006-11-02 20:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude she Is pregnant, It could be her hormones. Relax.
2006-11-02 19:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by Blackjack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋