I have a child who's 11 years old. While she's a loving child; I discovered that she gets defiant when she doesn't get her way. My problem and I'll admit, it's my fault; that we have bonded like "sisters" so to speak. Therefore, she took advantage. She plays both sides of the fence (going to grandma when she is turned down by me for certain things) lying and talking back.
I am at my wits end with her!! Several times I have exploded with regret. I don't know what to do!
2006-11-02 11:53:21 · 8 answers · asked by Dovegrl357 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
START ACTING THE ROLE OF A PARENT. TUFF LOVE , GET THE BOOK.....
2006-11-02 11:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by marshoberg55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well NEVER regret anything!! because, while thingks about what u have done in the past may make u upset, it still make u who u are today! wich is great, i dont knwo u but u prolly are a great mom! my mom was the same way with me, my dad was never around cuz he worked soo much and were became like sisters/bestfriends! its the best thing that coudl have happend and i wouldnt have it any other way! i never did anything as a tenn wrong cuz i loved my mom so much that i knew it would hurt her. and i didnt have a reason to defy her cuz she asked so little of me i had to help her or i would feel guilty! those few years b4 teenagehood can be really rocky but just establish a good solid base/relationship with her and make sure she knows u are always there for her and help her threw anything together, be a team!!! if this friendship continues lie mine did wiht my mom, then the teen years will be a breaze, well at least more then most peoples, that dictact there children! lol so just like i said, keep a good solid base wiht her like ecpect respect and u will get it, everything in moderation, like dont demand her to do anyhting jsut say"i would really like it if u would help me do the dishes tonight so we can have fun the rest of the nite and rent a movie" something of that degree would be great! make alomst everything enjoyable and the thigns that arnt will go easier!
2006-11-02 12:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by ask me about make up and fashion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly first, you would be able to desire to locate why she needs to bypass stay together with her dad, with the aid of fact. That seems the basis ofthe subject. likely he's the "exciting verify," she has no household initiatives whilst she's with him. next, type a compromise. Is there any way she could spend a sprint greater time with him? regardless of if he's a deadbeat, she loves him. tell her that she will in basic terms bypass do exciting issues with dad if she behaves. deliver her to her room everytime she hits or yells or disobeys. No television, telephone, videogames, and so on. provide her one warning each and every day, first time she misbehaves. next, eliminate something she loves. deliver her to her room. Then a grounding, together with her room stripped of exciting issues. the final analysis is consistency. If she doesnt smash out with something today, and does day after today, shes continually going to objective her obstacles. You, her mom, and the lady would desire to have a gathering the place you write the regulations and effects down. do no longer provide up if it does not paintings!! shop on :)
2016-10-03 05:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by cosco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru similar situations with my own kids. I don't play games with them, I'm the parent and I remind them of that often. My kids get grounded for some of their actions and one of the places they are grounded from is grandma's house. I also remind them when they want to throw a fit over something they are asked to do, etc. that the street runs both ways. If they don't want to do the things they're supposed to do then I don't want to do any of the things that they get as priveledges (ie renting movies and games, going out to eat or running for ice cream at the local Dairy Queen, etc.) If they want to push it, fine, I supply the home, food, clothing and utilities that they use and eat but I don't have to cook their food or wash their clothing. They don't want to do their chores, I don't want to do mine either, they have to do for themselves.
2006-11-02 12:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take everything out of her room leave her a bed and that is it. Tell her that if she does not quit back talking she will end up in jail and ppl in jail have a bed and that is it. Then if that still does not work put a chair in a corner and tell her if she wants to act like a baby you will treat her like one. Good luck and god bless.
2006-11-02 11:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a child sorta like this...she knows im the mom but she is sneaky...especially when she goes to her grandmas...so just let her know how you feel and how its going to be from now on...and if she is getting away with murder at her grandmas just dont let her go until she gets it right...the problem with my mom is she never sees a problem with how my kids act around her even though they are not to act these ways at home...dont explode just revoke privileges when it is needed
2006-11-02 12:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the law, mom, put your foot down. Talk to grandma about that. she needs to learn when you say no it means no. If she talks back ground her. If she lies ground her. If you dont start all this now eventuially this problem will get bigger and worse. stop it while you still have time.
2006-11-02 12:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by zxcvzxcv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling with her.
2006-11-02 11:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by GlamisGyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋