My brother recently got engaged. His fiance and I were best friends and even lived together for a semester. We got into a huge argument because I thought she was very selfish. We haven't spoken since that fight. My brother and I also have not been on speaking terms for the past three years. They asked me to be in their wedding in whatever way I was most comfortable, either as part of the wedding party or doing a reading. I don't even know if I should attend the wedding. What should I do?
2006-11-02 11:21:07 · 21 answers · asked by family problems 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
of course you should go..if your in the wedding party do it only if you want to....but you will regret missing the event because of some stupid argument
2006-11-02 11:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by blueman2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably that they want you to be there because you are family. If you don't feel comfortable being in the wedding party, you should read a poem or something nice. Get over the past and move on with your life. It would be very rude not to attend your brothers wedding.
2006-11-03 01:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definately be part of the wedding, choose what you are most comfortable with. A bridesmaid will be lots of fun, the reader is also a very important part! Years down the road you may regret not being part of it or even in attendance. They are making the first step, it may be a slow curving road but all will end up good. Have fun, let loose and enjoy. Goos luck.
2006-11-02 19:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by dpbuck10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should attend the wedding, that's the least you can do. It sounds like they're offering an olive branch and they're being really gracious by letting you choose how you want to be involved. She's going to be your sister-in-law and quite possibly the mother of your niece/nephew(s) in the future.
It's time to move forward. You don't have to be best friends with her again, in fact, maybe it's better that your not - to much emotion there - Dance at their wedding, enjoy yourself, and your growing family. Don't spend any more time being bitter!
Standing up in a wedding can be stressful, bow out of that commitment if you want to and offer to do a reading. Buy them a book of poetry and ask them to choose a poem for you to read.
I wish you the best!
2006-11-03 20:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother and his fiance have asked you to participate, that means they have moved on from whatever issues you had in the past and what you to be there. You should be honored by their invitation and do the same.
Whatever happened before, chances are, it's not worth missing this special day over. It's obvious it is important to them that you take part.
If you are not comfortable taking a huge role on, offer to cut the cake or something small like that. At the very least, you do need to attend.
2006-11-02 19:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over your argument and move on. Do you really want this argument to continue when a nephew/niece is born?
For the love of God, you are going to attend that wedding! Not only is he your brother, but she was also your friend and your soon-to-be sister-in-law!
Personally I would standing up beside them, as proud as can be! As awful as that fight must have been, it's time to move on.
2006-11-02 23:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grow up for real. This is your bother, your blood!! Okay, you and his soon to be wife had a disagreement but that was long ago. Clean the sleet and try to mend your broken friendship. what I'm saying is "yes" be in the wedding support your bother as well as the rest of your family, I know if you say no it will hurt your mother (if she is still here or even if she not). Save all the drama and be a good sister. Wishing you and your family the best....
2006-11-02 20:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is most likely their way of reaching out to you and trying to mend your relationships. What you feel comfortable doing is up to you, but at least attend the wedding. It is the things we don't do that we regret more as we get older. Don't pass up the chance to bring your family back together.
2006-11-02 20:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A brother is a brother NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!
Be active in the wedding, don't matter if his bride is not your best friend, or even any type of friend!
Buck up, swallow your feelings and help make this the Family celebration that it is.Be supportive of your brother, and show him as much love and compassion as you can!
You wont ever regret being kind to anyone,even family!
Trust me, you'll like yourself better if you take the high road in this instance.
Good Luck
2006-11-02 21:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short to hold a grudge like that. Participate at whatever level you feel comfortable. They obviously want to move past your argument if they made the first step to reconcile with you. You may regret the years you've wasted down the line if you completely shut them out of your life now.
2006-11-02 21:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You're family and they are making the first step. I was friends with someone from the age of 7-26. I dated her brother and married him 2 years later. In 6 years she hasn't gotton over it and now family functions are so uncomfortable. If you don't do it you are the one being selfish. You're better than that.
2006-11-02 19:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋