is it wrong of me to have expected more, like a down payment on a condo? (they have a net worth of at least a 2 million $)
2006-11-02 11:07:36 · 33 answers · asked by saskugd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
firstly in our culture, its traditional to get a substancial monetary gift from the parents if they can afford it, secondly, I hate the carpet, thirdly, I have to take care of their daughter for the rest of her life (big expense), fourthly, the bride's parents are supposed to pay for the WHOLE wedding, not part of it,fifthly, they didn't work for their money, it was mainly inherited - any comments?
2006-11-02 11:26:27 · update #1
I mean for God's sake, its their frikkin daughter were talking about! (first born, I may add)
2006-11-02 11:30:15 · update #2
Just because they have a net worth of $2 Million doesn't mean they have to spend it on everyone else....they'd be broke if they did that. $6000 is a LOT of money to give someone, be thankful they spent money on you at all--it looks like they were pretty generous. Also, you and your spouse are your own people...you need to learn to stand on your own two feet and make your own way, financially as well as emotionally.
2006-11-02 11:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by schaianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely wrong to expect anything more. Firstly, $2million net worth is not exactly Bill Gates. Especially since net worth includes their home. In some areas, the $2 million would be the value of a home, and not much more. They may not have as much cash as you think. Secondly, put the rug in the guest room, so you don't have to look at it much. It's the thought that counts. Thirdly, you "have" to take care of their daughter for the rest of her life? Why did you get married, if that is so offensive to you? Fourthly, buy your own condo. Be a man.
2006-11-02 16:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that $6000 is very generous, whether the family is deemed "rich" or not. You are way out of line to expect a handout because you feel they have more to give. Do you want them checking out your bank accounts? I doubt it.
As for the "huge expense" of caring for their daughter, could you be anymore DISRESPECTFUL to your wife?? Marriage is not meant to be a burden, but an expression of love between two people who are willing to WORK to live their lives together! You obviously have no respect for the vows and sanctity of marriage, or this would not even be an issue.
When I got married I was so happy just to have family share the moment with me. The gifts were an added bonus. You are selfish and greedy, and are only going to breed ill will and contempt with your in-laws and wife you carry on such behavior.
2006-11-02 11:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is absolutely wrong of you to expect more, you greedy, selfish, spoiled a******. You are not entitled to anything, and you were lucky to have received a dime from them. They have no obligation to you or your wife, but out of the goodness of their hearts they gave you something. And as a matter of fact, they gave you a substantial gift, something they weren't "required" to do.
To your points:
1. It doesn't matter what your culture dictates. They can choose to give you as little or as much as they want. You don't get a say in it.
2. If you hate it so much, perhaps you should have acted like an adult and bought your own carpet.
3. You don't have to "take care" of anyone. I'm sure their daughter is capable of taking care of herself. You got married because you love her (don't you?).
4. It is 2006. Times have changed. The brides parents aren't supposed to pay for anything. If they want to pay for it, great. If not, grow up and pay for it yourself.
5. Who cares if it was inherited? It's THEIR money, not yours. They decide what they want to do with it, not you.
You need to grow up. I can't believe this question was even asked.
2006-11-02 12:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Luv 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You already got a lot more then many people get. My ex in-laws are worth a lot more then that but I didn't marry my ex for that reason otherwise I'd still be with him. I think if I can remember right they gave us like 500.00 as a wedding gift. I was happy as could be with that since we had just moved out of state to his job and I was still in the process of finding a new job there. ;o)
2006-11-02 11:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Questions like that make it way too easy for people think you got married just because of how wealthy your in-laws are. I'd be thankful for the contributions they made.... and appreciate what they've done. Some of us had parents that could easily contribute to the wedding, but refused. So until your using your monetary wedding gifts to pay for the reception,.... stop complaining.
2006-11-02 11:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your in-laws are nice to you, respect you then that will be the best gift you get from them. Trust me! 6000$ is a lot of money. They didn't have to pay for any of the wedding. Usually it's the bride's family that traditionally pays for things. Not that you have to be tradional, just something to keep in mind. That's just my opinion. What does your husband think? If you don't want to ask him for fear of sounding shallow then you know the answer to your question. I would be grateful for what I got.
2006-11-02 11:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life sounds like you have it too easy, you are very lucky to have her as a wife and such great inlaws who have contributed to a great start with your wife.
sounds like you are very lazy and you should get up and start working for your condo and not expect charity
i dont know any cultures that it is expected of the inlaws to help with a house, sounds like you just want an easy ride
there net worth in todays stds is not over the top and i am sure they have better ways to spend there hard earned money on other things then you.
do they know or your wife knows what you are saying??
i wouldnt like to be married to a loser like you.
2006-11-02 17:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by queensuzyq2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here I thought you were going to say they want you to pay them back lol!
Lucky you got anything..... What they have, they have. What did you do to earn what they have? Did you just marry into the family for the $$$? If so maybe they no this and are letting you know nicely that this is not the way the world works.....
Go out make your own money, don't expect others to hand you it....
2006-11-02 11:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats really selfish of you to expect. Whats the term... wedding gift. Its not a requirement they give your *** anything. Be greatful. And about you having to take care of their daughter, I hope you don't talk to her like that. Poor girl. Your parents should be paying her.
2006-11-02 15:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋