BOYFRIEND PROBLEMS. i need some help. ive known him for about 10 months, and we have been dating for like 3. im in san jose and he is in oak harbor, wa. he is stationed in the navy. i really care for him. he is coming home for the holidays, but until then i would like to talk to him. it seems like i am working harder at this than he is, but im not sure. he tells me that i am one of the more important things to him after family, obviously. sometimes is just doesnt feel that way. if he has time to eat, sleep and pee, and then he makes itme to watch movies in a lot of his free time, shouldnt he make atleast 5 minutes for us to talk? im not even sure what to do. he texts me to see what im doing and tells me he is watching a movie and then like 10 minutes later is like "oh im gonna focus on my movie, so ill text you later." wtf is that? who does that? anyways. give me some advice. please.
2006-11-02 10:58:06 · 6 answers · asked by kristeenuhh20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, Ms I too was in the service and from what you say it sounds like he just wants someone to come to. Next time he texs you wait aday to reply. See what happens. He maybe being playing head games. What ever you do be careful.
Good Luck.
2006-11-02 11:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's being friendly and staying connected to you by texting you. don't get mad. is he in tech school or is he already outta tech school?
I'm in the Air Force and it can be very very very stressful. If he's in tech school don't expect too much from him. Being married I don't know what life is like in the dorms after tech school since i have a house, but im sure its a lot of the same. if he's younger than 30 then think of this like college for him when he's not at work.
remember he's IN THE MILITARY. that always comes first. i dont agree with it, but some times it can't be avoided.
i'd sugest finding someone non-military to date.
2006-11-02 19:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on! you dont need a man who is never there when you need him he should make u feel like a priority but the way you make him come off it seems like he is totally selfish then again he might have commitment problems its not strange to find ppl who are in the army or cival service to be scared of getting attachted to someone he might not want to hurt you god forbid anything happens to him or maybe he just doesn't feel as strongly as he says he does about you either way you should move on i am sure you can find someone with out so much emotional baggage.
2006-11-02 19:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by LostBoi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he texts you, tell him you gotta go , and end the conversation, leave him wondering wtf about you. its easy to put the ball in someone elses court! have fun and play his game back. and yes if he really liked you he wouldn't want to end the conversation, that's how it is when you really like someone. i know cuz my guy doesn't want to let me go even after 2 1/2 years. find someone who dies over you! he is out there! i promise. this guy isn't worthy of anything other than game playing. don't waste too much time playing games, just enough to make him be the one who is confused!
2006-11-02 19:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt a good boyfriend...if he was..he would rather talk to u and talk about his day andask u what udid rather then atching a stupid movie.
u should tell him u feel bad.if he completly ignors u.leave him.thats the best thing to do.
im sorry but thtast ur only choice.
good luck/
2006-11-02 19:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jermaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to really talk to him if he really cares he would try to firgue things out say wat u feel talking and commucation is the key to a relastionship
hope it works out!!:)
2006-11-02 19:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋