should i sex with my ex?

Question

me and my gf spilt up, she told me that she was sleeping with other guys,and now shes telling me she isnt,recently shes been phoning,wanting to get back,i said on conditions,that we tell each other the truth,so she told me that she wasnt sleeping w/the guys and that she had something 4 my m8,but dosent want to do anything about it incase she hurts me,so over the phone the night,we where just tlking,then shes telling me shes being naughty,playing w/herself,letting me hear,and saying wishing i was there to give her a hand.shes coming over 2morrow,so dont know whatll happen.do u think she mabye leading me on,wants to get back or mabye has someone else,but keeping me in reserve incase things dont work out with them,really confused. cheers for reading this/giving advice.any1 been in a similar scenario.

Answer 1

female answer : stay away from her she just want to use you cause she is bored
Male answer : go for it but use protection she might be trying to trap you

Answer 2

Short answer: NO!

Long answer and you already probably know this:
1. You are introducing more hurts and feelings all over again...do you want to go through that again?
2. She just wants to see if she can get ya again (or play with you) Now you don't want to be a toy now do you?
3. Don't believe there are no strings attached, someone will get hurt.
4. Don't do it if you're lonely or vice versa.
5. You could get a disease or her pregnant and do you need those new problems?
6. Maybe she's trying to make someone else mad.
7. Are you really going to fall for it?
8. Would you have done this before the relationship? Don't compromise yourself! Don't even let her tease you. It's a control thing. I used to like to see if my ex liked me still but I didn't want him back it's some sort of ego thing.

Answer 3

It really sounds that your girlfriend is messed up a lot and she has some issues of insecurity and tries to get approval from other men. This is something she will have to work through on her own and to find out why she is doing what she is because it certainly isn't very healthy behaviour on her part.

Sleeping around is often an indication that she has issues of trust with men in general and will not commit to you or any man whilst she is talking the way she is and behaving like she is. It is truly sad that she is doing what she is doing and to herself more than anyone else she is using or hurting.

I think that you are right, and that yes, she is leading you on and is going to hurt you all over again. Even though she claims to have finnished with these men, you will not be able to trust her completley and it will always be in the back of your mind that she may do it again. I think that this girl is messed up and needs help to find out why she is the way she is because a healthy person wouldn't behave the way she does.

She has at least been honest with you and told you that she doesn't want to hurt you and because she knows that she will because she hasn't quite stopped doing what she has with other men. Her intentions are honest towards you for being honest with you, but her behaviour isn't and she is letting you know that she can't be anything with you other than a sexual partner, but that all she can offer you is sexual contact and no more than that.

I would not have anything to do with her if I were you and tell her that you are looking for more than what she is offering you. You want commitment and security and trust and she cannot offer you these things. I really think that she is doing what she is with other men because she is unhappy and there are reasons behind what she does. She is not doing this for no reason at all but this is something she needs to sort out with herself.

You cannot help her with her problem and you do not deserve to be with someone who is going to abuse your trust and offer you nothing more than just sex. A realtionship is everything, and her behaviour is pretty disturbing and she is incapable of having a relationship with anyone righ now in her life. Move on from her and do not allow her to use you.

Answer 4

Just keep walking away Man and don't look back, it's just not worth it. You need to take control of this because she's the one excercising all the power over you. Turn it around, you'll be a stronger person for it in the long run.

Answer 5

To me this sounds like she is stringing you along. Unless you can be really sure she isn't lying to you about the other guys, I wouldn't engage in any sexual acts with her. I say hold off on the sex and see if she really wants you back or just the physical you. If she really wants to get back with you then she won't mind holding off for a little while. Although from what it sounds like, she might just be flat out horny and wanting some. I wouldn't blame you for getting some from her, but if you are still attatched to her, then I wouldn't suggest it.

Answer 6

You are giving away all your power. Everything is what "she" wants to do. But what about what you want to do? I'm not prude by a longshot, but you might want to think about possibily endangering yourself with sexually transmitted diseases since you know she's been sleeping around.

She knows your weaknesses and one of them may be a lack of control when it comes to sexuality. Remember, through your desire that there is a reason why she is your ex. People lie...

Answer 7

Sure, meet up and have great sex but no way get back together in a relationship. She's a little liar and not to be trusted again.

Answer 8

dont get back with her. if you care about her wait and see whether she cares about you or not. it seem like she's playing games.

Answer 9

Do you have the word MUG tattooed on your forehead????

Answer 10

no no no....no sex with ex...she's been around.....she may want to screw you coz she's at a loose end and theres no one else to do it with...watch out...and if you do submit to her...wear a condom....