She has been distant with me and under a lot of stress otherwise (although much of it self-induced, I have to say). She has some things going on with her in terms of us, some things she is coming to grips with. And I got worried. (It's a long story) Anyways, I emailed one of her good friends and alluded to the fact that I was "a little worried" (my exact words). I asked if I could call her or go out for a drink, told her why, and even told her I intended to tell my gf. My only intent was to figure out how she was doing outside of us. What would you think if it was you?
2006-11-02 10:19:35 · 10 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assure you I am not cheating and have no intention of cheating.
2006-11-02 10:23:02 · update #1
Sounds fine if you're really describing it acurately. If my husband noticed that I was stressed, I would hope he would sit and talk with me about it (and he probably would). But if he asked my friend to go out for an honest drink to talk about me because he was truly worried, and I found out, I would be fine with it.
2006-11-02 10:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, listen to me, if you want to know what's wrong with your gf, ask her, not her friend. Trust me, she's under stress, and what she needs the most is your support, no matter how distant she may seem. Is she stressed about your relationship, or is she stressed about something else? DO NOT go for a drink with her friend, even though you have no intentions of doing anything with her friend. It will make you look bad and make the situation worse, especially if you are caught with her friend ALONE. I hope this helps.
2006-11-02 18:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got a little lost in the question. I think going around the gf is a real bad idea. Work it out w/the gf and leave the outsiders outside.
2006-11-02 18:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by sideways 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far I think you are burying yourself, on the way to your "date " with her best friend, be sure to pick up a shovel to dig yourself back out of what you are getting into. The ONLY one you should be talking to is HER. Whoever told you something else is setting you up. Take it from an older woman who has dated a VERY long time.
2006-11-02 18:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on you're age. If you two are younger(say 20's) then girls tend to be less understanding about that sort of stuff. If you are older though maybe she needs to grow up. If you can't have a drink with someone then she has serious self esteem issues.
2006-11-02 18:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by milldogg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think that you ran away when the going got tough. That you weren't there for me when I needed you the most. That you are certainly not the guy for me and then I would let you go with whomever you wanted. Good riddance.
2006-11-02 18:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by kksay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you were a lying snake. Why would you have to go out for a drink just to talk?
2006-11-02 18:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
so you have been cheating on your GF? you're a winner.
2006-11-02 18:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are in deep doo doo
2006-11-02 18:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be talking to her not to her friend.you are bringing drama in this when it should not be.
2006-11-02 18:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Amry 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋