I'm scared, I have no idea where to start. Oh forget friends, relatives, Etc. MOMS poisoned all those options. And to top it off She called the cops to have me removed. is that LEGAL. I pay rent and have canceled checks for proof....
2006-11-02 10:15:26 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
From living in a similar experience, I know that you need to break away from your mom, both physically and emotionally, but especially emotionally.
What she did is legal if you were threatening her, abusing her, or doing anything that affected her physical or emotional well-being, so as you can guess a lot of actions can be part of that definition.
I know this is harder to do than to say, but I'll say it anyway: Just start living your own life.
What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, I know from experiences that almost killed me.
Pray to God that He will show you the path you need to take to become happy and at peace with yourself.
2006-11-02 10:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by STILL standing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's no written lease she can legally throw you out. I don't think you would have much of a case.
Do yourself a favor and stop depending on her to take care of you - or anyone else - because as you already found out, they will let you down. Even with a chronic mental illness you CAN take care of yourself and be successful! I know whereof I speak...
Get some help. If you have a SSI caseworker, tell him or her that you want to try living on your own and need some assistance. Another good place to start is Healthcare for the Homeless. They have WONDERFUL resources to help homeless and near-homeless people, especially those with mental illnesses. You might have to bite the bullet and live in a shelter for a few weeks, but I bet they can get you into a long-term residence of your own in not too long.
Concentrate on seeking help from professionals and agencies, not on your friends and family. It could be they just don't know how to help you or are exasperated, and if they see you are taking the reins and making progress, they might come back to you with healthier relationships.
2006-11-02 10:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30, on SSI and wouldn't live with my crazy mother if that were the last option on earth because I would never, ever get better. I do live in a too-small apartment and it isn't easy, but there must be some alternatives to living with your Mom. I have a child, so my options are limited...for example, I couldn't just rent a room. But if it is just you, you can. It sounds like it's time to look into the alternatives.
2006-11-02 10:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you now?
If you have cancelled checks that prove that you are paid up for any amount of time...that would help for now. I too was am on disability. There are allot of other options.
I wouldn't advise living with your Mom.
I would try to calm yourself and talk to her.
I don't know the whole story here so I can't answer this as good as I would like to.
There are all kinds of recourse's to get help in finding a home you can afford but it will take work and dedication.
I wish you the best. I wish I could have been more help.
~T~
2006-11-02 10:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can throw you out!!! It is her house and although you contribute if you do not have a lease agreement you are gone! First of all stop using your bi-polar as a crutch. You should be on medication to help with this. Get yourself some help and become an effective member of society!! You are 36 and shouldn't be relying on your mother!!
2006-11-02 10:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by One Of The Girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were causing a disurbance they could ask you leave. Talk to your mom into letting you stay till you find a place I am sure she can at least give you that much time. Being Bi-polar does not mean you can't function on your own.
2006-11-02 10:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom is throwing you out,you must not be doing something right.i know you mentioned you are bi-polar,but you can still live on your own,there are apartments you could afford,i'm sure!take hold of your own life and move out!
2006-11-02 10:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by tinaluvsglass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋