My Dad died Oct. 5, 2006 and ever since, I just want to be left alone. Is this normal?
2006-11-02 09:59:11 · 11 answers · asked by ace 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It can be indicative of depression, social anxiety, or something more chronic, but since your father died less than a month ago, this is an absolutely normal part of acute grief - there is nothing wrong with your brain. The only disorder you have is the loss and reorganization you're experiencing, learning to live without a dad. I promise you that it will get better with time. A grief support group can help. If you start to be unable to leave the house, go to work, etc., you might want to see a counselor, or at least talk to one on the phone if you can't get out of the house, but I really think this is just normal grieving and you just have to get through it.
2006-11-02 10:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases it is not only normal behavior, but is healthy behavior, showing how much you loved and cared for the person who died, and that the loss of that person had an understandable impact on your life.
Of course that doesn't mean that you should continue avoiding people for a long time, but go back to socializing and relating to other people gradually, until you feel you can relate to others without thinking about your deceased father.
It will not be easy and it will not be quick, but the cliche that "Time heals all wounds" is usually true.
There is a gaping hole in your life right now that can only be filled by your faith that your father is now in a better place and he would want you to go on with your life and be happy, even without him there to make you happy.
Peace be with you.
2006-11-02 18:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by STILL standing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from depression as a result of your loss.. Withdrawal is a symptom of depression. Or you may just be grieving in your own way. The stages of grief are denial anger bargaining depression and acceptance. Hope this helps. Don't keep things bottled up inside. You may go talk to a therapist for a short amount of time and anti depressants may help as well.
2006-11-02 21:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah bra most people withdraw when something like that happens but yo need to see a doc or a psych guy and let your feelings out cause if you bottle up one day you might explode better to have little out bursts now then massive ones later on.
for now remember how much you and your dad loved each other, just because he's gone physically dosnt mean he's not there with you everyday, just be happy and do what you think he'd be proud of you for doing, most of all dont be ashamed for living because he's not you were pout here to experience and enjoy life and unfortunatly death is just a part of it, but there will always be the better parts to look forward to
hope ya'll feel better soon bra i'll be praying for ya
happy days man happy days
2006-11-02 18:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY ABOUT YOUR FATHER. YOUR FATHER DIED LESS THAN A MONTH AGO.
YES THAT IS NORMAL. IT IS CALLED GRIEVING. THE PROCESS OF GRIEF USUSALLY TAKES ABOUT A YEAR. IT WILL TAKE TIME BEFORE YOU REGROUP AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. IF YOU AND YOUR FATHER WERE REALLY CLOSE, THE PROCESS COULD TAKE LONGER. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME TO GRIEVE.
MANY PEOPLE THINK THAT ONCE A PERSON DIES AND THE FUNERAL IS OVER, THE GRIEVING PERSON SHOULD "JUST GET OVER IT". WELL, IT IS NOT REALLY THAT SIMPLE. TIME IS A HEALER OF MOST THINGS.
IF, AFTER SEVERAL MONTHS, YOU ARE STILL IN THE SAME STATE AND UNABLE TO FUNCTION, YOU MIGHT NTHEN CONSIDER GOING TO A GRIEF GROUP OR TALK WITH A THERAPIST.
2006-11-02 22:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT's quite normal. It's called grief. Hopefully you will pass through this stage soon. It's extremely hard and I'm very sorry for you. Just take one day at a time.....there isn't a time limit on grief. You will know when enough time has passed and you'll start to feel better a little at a time. God Bless Hon!
2006-11-02 18:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your thinking is above normal. When my mother passed I freaked, I talked to nobody except people at work who I had to talk with, and a few close friends I talked to only when they would call or stop by. I also had violent thoughts toward others, you know, why her and not some low-life like whoever. My attitude turned to shi* for a longtime but at some point you snap out of it for whatever reason, you have to. I snapped out of it after of all things, talking with a "shrink" a few times. Life goes on...Don't waste it by mourning too long, the longer you wait to deal with a mental disease, the worse it gets.
2006-11-02 18:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Later Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be social anxiety disorder. It could also be the normal grief process. If you're concerned, you might want to talk to a therapist about either working through your grieving or getting over a possible social anxiety disorder.
2006-11-02 18:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT have a disorder. Sheesh. It's normal to feel this way for months after the death of your father. Hang in there and give yourself time to experience this and then move on when you are ready.
2006-11-02 18:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you loss. I can understand that the death of your father can be very terrible and hard 4 u. but i would say yes. its probab;y normal live thru the pain, get over it, and be with friends. move on.
2006-11-02 18:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by gg_sk8ertm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋