I am kind of in a situation. I have a girlfriend (or had) who liked me, and I like her but her ex boyfriend gave her a hard time about it. He would often say things like, "Oh I see how this is, just forget me and go for him, hes much better anyways" This gave my girlfriend sympathy for him and they got really close. I dont know how to get her over him and back to me. can someone give me any advice?
2006-11-02 09:55:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHe's got to figure it out on her own. You don't want to be blamed for "pressuring" her. She needs to realize that she has to make a decision. Just wait a bit, but if she keeps playing games, move on. Don't let her keep you tied up.
2006-11-02 09:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first; how long were you and your former girlfriend together? And how long has she been back together with this former bf? I ask 'cause if she was with you for a short period of time and "ran back" to her old bf when he started whining, there's a possibility that she wasn't completely over him. Not that she didn't like you or have feelings for you, but possibly her feelings for him were stronger than she let on. If she's been back together with that guy for awhile now, that would make this idea sound more likely.
Second, did she tell you that she was only getting back with her old bf because she felt sorry for him, or did you just figure that's what happened? She may like you enough to have let you down slowly *IF* she was still longing for her old bf.
With just the info you gave, there's a chance that she's with her old/new bf now because she feels bad for him. *But*, there's also a chance that she could still want to be with you anyway -- how many of us have been sucked back into a relationship we know isn't good for us?
So find a time to talk to her when it's just the two of you, when it's face-to-face, and tell her that you still have feelings for her and really want her back. Tell her you think there's a chance that she's with her old bf because she feels sympathy for him. Let her know that you're there for her, and tell her she needs to think about what she wants, and that you'll be there for her when she decides.
Don't demand an instant answer; if she's really torn between really wanting you and her sympathy for the old bf, it's gonna be a tough decision (and she may be shocked that you still want her -- hey, just wondering 'cause I don't know if she still knows your feelings).
Best of luck, 'cause I know that's a tough spot. I wish you the best....
2006-11-02 10:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I wonder if my guy is having the same problem becuase im stuck on my ex, he was my first love and that is hard to let go of. just be amazing, remind her why she left her ex so she knows you are better. whe my guy treats me to my fav restaurant (olive garden) it means alot cuz my ex never did that becuase he liked other places, or rent my fav genre of movies or movies i wanna see becuase that way we can spend time together, take me out of town, just be amazing and show her she is in a better place but if she is acting funny she may not deserve you and you can do better. the factthat you came on here asking for advice syays alot about you. i figure, show her what she will be missing if she doesnt treat YOU better instead of the other way aroudnd ;)
2006-11-02 10:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by uiucsmith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so incredibly sorry. I would be so upset in your position. Maybe she isnt right for you.... if she could dump you for him when he was clearly being horrible about the whole thing, you shouldnt want to be with her.
2006-11-02 09:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like a princess, don't give her time to think about anything, just have a lot of fun...
2006-11-02 10:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get her to do it, it's up to her. She needs to get over it and worry about how she feels. They're not together so she doesn't need to worry about how he feels about her dating other guys.
2006-11-02 09:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by L.A.M.B. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your gf to talk to her ex about how he should stop and they're over.
2006-11-02 09:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by mi2z_myst3ry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out do him in bed.
2006-11-02 09:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋