3 yr old son wont clean bedroom?

Question

I've tried and tried to have my 3 year old clean his bedroom, but he always refuses and he'll just sit in there and play...What can I do?

Answer 1

Make it easy for him. Label his toy bins with pictures of what goes in there. If it is a major mess, help him because it can be overwhelming! Say things like, Lets get all the cars first.
Or make a game...how many red things can you pick up? or, Can you clean up all of your blocks before I count to 20?

Answer 2

for the next 15 years, accept it, lol. i was the MESSIEST kid you ever saw. I COULD clean my room, but it never lasted. As an an adult, a mother, and a wife, I am now a very tidy person. The room is your childs only personal space. Other people dont have to see it. If you have to, while they are young, but not TOO young, periodically go in there with a trash bag (whild your child is away) and get rid of any junk or garbage or toys they dont use. Tell them that you will continue to do that unless they clean the room themselves. As he gets older, make him do chores and such around the house. Make sure he at least knows HOW. His future wife will hate you if you dont do at least that much, lol

Answer 3

Why make them at 3 . You should incorporate them when you do it. Try saying things like were do you want this to go. By pressuring them at 3 they will use it as a power struggle, Try other incentive stuff like if you clean your room all week we will go somewhere they really like to go. Like Grandmas or Chucky cheeses. Use a board with stickers to keep track. The book below has wonderful Ideas in this realm for kids. Read it . It is not to long and gives really good advice.

Answer 4

That's because its your job to clean your pre-schooler's room and show him that when people grow up part of what they do is clean.

While you clean his room invite him to do a simple thing like "can you go find all the socks that need their brothers and put them in a bag" or "can you just bring me all the L'egos you can see anywhere, so I can put them back in the box."

If you clean the room and show him that it isn't a horrible job and that it can be fun and something you do together he won't see it as some awful thing you're not willing to and that you expect him to do even if he isn't emotionally ready to deal with doing this type of job.

Even when kids get older, you have to keep the rules about how neat a room will be simple and allow for a little flexibility. Believe it or not, kids sometimes take it upon themselves to clean their rooms when it becomes clear that's what needs to be done for one reason or another.

Answer 5

sit with him and help him clean it. It has to be a fun experience or he will hate it. Also....bribes are the best thing for a child that age. I have a 3 year old. He loves baths, so I tell him he can't have a bath until his toys are picked up. Also....it helps to do it in stages. clean toys. then when he's done, pick up clothes. Then when that's done, books, etc.

Answer 6

Go in his room and help him with it. Make it fun. Don't do the whole job for him, just give him a hand. He will do the work if he sees you doing it.

My Son in 3 and a pain about it too... I started this about 3 months ago. Now when i ask him to cleanup his messes, he asks for help, and I tell him he is a big boy and can do it on his own now. He feels proud and so do I!

Answer 7

You can't expect a 3 year old to clean his room by himself. Make a game out of it and help him the first few times. Make him pick up and place things where they belong. If he does not respond to this "fun" time, take away something that will get his attention. Do Not bribe him with candy or toys - you will be blackmailed for the rest of your life. My kids always responded well to this. It takes work to develop their good habits, but work from you too. I hope this gets you out of your dilema.

Answer 8

what is his favorite treat or activity or place to go? well, whatever it is tell him you will give him that, take him there, or play that with him if he cleans up his room. like candy, or take him out for ice cream or to the park. i had this same problem with my son when he was about 3 or 4 and he is 6 now and he cleans his room allthe time expecting a treat and when he doesnt get one he keeps cleaning and never gives up.

Answer 9

tell him he has five mins to finish playing. then tell him three, then one. after that, tell him it is time to clean. if he won't do it, give him a count down from three...then MAKE HIM DO IT. stand him up, take his hands in yours and make him pick up the toys. of course, you are picking up the toys using his hands, and he will probably fight you the whole way. and kick, and scream and amke you feel like the worse parent in the world. of course, you can always let it go, and let his room get messy; clean it up yourself, or spank him until he does it. not very great options, huh? i had to do the "I'll make you pick it up" thing for a couple weeks with both of mine (a boy and a girl) when they were that age (well, younger really. we started clean up when they were young so that it would be just a natural course of things by now) and they are both really good about picking up their toys when i tell them to now.

Answer 10

gosh the kids three maybe start off when hes five or so but getting an early start on rules is always good try not to be so hard on him just simple tell him if he cleans up nicely you'll give him a reward or make a chart where every time he does something good he gets a sticker and when he gets to ten stickers he gets a surprise...good luck