so my boyfriend has a friend which happens to be a girl. The problem is I know she has a crush on him because she calls him every night and i can always hear her giggling on the phone and she always calls him as soon as she gets off of work. He swears up and down they are just friends and says he doesn't like her like that but he knows i get irriated when he answers the phone when it's her calling. I mean i know they have been friends for a long time but it's obvious she likes him. Why else would you call someone everynight, especially as soon as you get off of work. What should I do. I know that nothing is going on between them but it just irriates me that she has to call every night.
2006-11-02 09:49:52 · 22 answers · asked by kero 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should give him a taste of his own medicine. Have a friend pose as a guy and talk to her like a guy on the phone. If he asks who you are talking to say oh, my friend, brad (example). See how he reacts. Do this for a week or so and see how it goes. If he gets mad, be like you talk to her whats the big deal we are just friends.
2006-11-02 09:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're both disrespecting you and you need to take a stand, because unless you do, it'll never stop.
It's irritating as all hell that she's doing what she's doing ... but it's downright shameful of him not to put an end to it on your behalf. And you need to tell him this.
If it still continues after your heart-to-heart talk with him:
Depending on the hours of her calls, you might just try leaving your home each time she calls. No goodbye to him, no explanations, nothing. Just go to a friends house, go see a movie, whatever. Chances are, after a few of your exits, the calls will stop coming.
Good Luck!
2006-11-02 18:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by mutt_buffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. It takes two to tango. If one isn't wanting to tango with other, they're not gonna dance. If you're boyfriend really doesn't like her like that, you have NOTHING to be worried about. My ex had a friend that he talked to every night when we first started dating. At first, it irritated me, but I realized I had nothing to worry about. He's my ex because I'm a virgin, and I plan on staying that way for a LOOOOONG time. As a matter of fact, he's had the same girlfriend since a month after we broke up, and the girlfriend is NOT the friend I thought I needed to worry about.
2006-11-02 17:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Pea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It man knew this female before you. Why should he end his friendship with her? if he answers the phone while you are there and you can hear the entire conversation then he isnt hiding anything. You can ask that she not call every night and be more respectful of your feelings since it irritates you.Trust is important in a relationship.
2006-11-02 17:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a guy friend to call every night and see if the boy friend likes it. Change your number.
Remember, all is fair in love and war. She is your competition and his fall back. If he really loved you, he would respect your feelings and cut her off. If the boy friend isn't serious enough with your relationship, then you should realize that you're second in line.
2006-11-02 17:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy above is right, ask him to tone it down. But not because your jellous, but because you want to spend more time with him. Never get between your man and his friends, he'll drop you like yesterdays news. No mater how much they irritate you, even if you dont like them, you can verbalize that, but never try to break up a friendship. In all likely hood (if hes worth anything) he'll understand how you feel and pay attention to you.
2006-11-02 17:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by jinxintheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about they talk to each other because they have been friends for so long. And of course she likes him if they've been friends for a while. However if they haven't dated and he's dating you that probably means he likes you as a gf and her as a friend. If it freaks you out so much and don't trust him I don't think you should be in the relationship because it's really not fair to him.
2006-11-02 17:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by X M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get past this jealousy then he's going to dump you. That girl has been his friend for years, and you are new. He will not choose you over her.
And some friends do call each other every night, so you are just going to have to get over it.
2006-11-02 17:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get too upset. You have to have trust in your boyfriend, and if you're always getting mad at him for talking to her, then he's going to start resenting you and you just might send him running into her arms. You don't have to be super friendly to her; just act like you don't care and then go vent to your BFF or someone. Remember that just because she likes him like that, doesn't mean that he reciprocates her feelings. After all, he's with YOU. With that said, I think that you should keep your eyes open and don't be so trusting that you're naive.
2006-11-02 18:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by amethystaquarius0205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break up with him over this, then she wins, right? Next thing you know he is crying on her shoulder, and pretty soon, into her lap if you catch my drift. Before you know it they are married and she is popping out his babies. Hardly fair.
Your best option is to tell him how you feel, and then give him the most helacious BJ of his life.
P.S. Boyfriend: you can thank me later.
2006-11-02 17:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by Cyrus A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋