how and were did you meet your Christian mate i have not been able to find a Christian Woman who is not already married and when i was younger not going to church having failed relationships my Grandmother says to go to church and find a good Christian woman but i have been going to church but i go to praise and worship and hear the word and learn more of the word of God i don't feel its right to go there to look for a Girl friend but like i sdaid they are all married any way i have been divorced for 7 years and forgot how to date i don't go to bars and i am not wanting to find a woman who doesn't believe and try to make her believe I have been praying I would meet my soul mate
if you could tell me how and were you met you mate maybe that would help in my search thank you and God Bless you all
and for those of you who want to make fun of me God Bless you too
2006-11-02 09:29:07 · 12 answers · asked by jamnjims 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Met my husband when I commenced voluntary work in a Christian organisation .....wondered why God had called me there but it soon became very obvious why He'd called me...so I could meet my gorgeous man :)
don't forget the Bible says, "Seek first the kingdom of God and then all of these things will be given to you". Jesus was talking about giving all the blessings God has for you.......seek God, not a woman & then see what God does with that. God bless you as you seek Him.
I'm praying that God will provide a Godly wife for you......
2006-11-02 13:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rhonda D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hHi:
I've been there. However, I am thankful that I took the christian advice of not starting relationships with unbelievers. My Christian mother told to wait, that God has someone for you if you only wait.
As a young christian I went to conferences regularly were I met other young people from other areas. It was through the social context of these meetings that I got to know others from other areas and other backgrounds. At these conferences we received ministry on the topic that God has a plan for your life which will include a wife if it is his will that you marry.
When I was about 19 I took the innitive and approached a young Christian girl and we began a relationship. I might add casual dating was not encouraged. Although I thought the world of this girl I do not feel that she was the one. I seriously prayed for help.
One day I met a girl through a friend of mine. She was a happy believer who was studying nursing at the time. I was attracted to her in a big way but felt trapped. The big problem was that a friend of mine had already started a casual relationship. I felt torn, between the girl I had been going with and this new girl on the scene. I decided to act and began by breaking my first relationship off...this was painful for me and my friend. It was at this point that my friend lost interest in the other girl leaving the path open for me.
I asked the girl if I could visit her. This meant that I would meet her family before we would go out. The end result was that we went out and from that point onward I knew who God had for me. After 6 months we were engaged and married within the first year. This was the beginning of a blessed life, together with God we raised a family of 3 and now have 6 grandchildren. It will be 40 years and I still thank God for the wife which he brought to me those many years ago.
Today, there seems to be a lack of seriousness in obeying the scripture to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. As a result and I know of such cases, young people are taking the way of the world and marrying outside the christian family. This is resulting in an increased divorce rate which was unheard of 30 years ago.
My advice is to wait on God. Try to find someone with similar values and beliefs, and above all one who knows Jesus as Savior and Lord. Follow the advice of Solomon "In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths" Prov. 3:6
You question church as a place to look for a soul mate. I would respond and say what better place. God bless you
2006-11-02 10:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by perrin556 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray, pray and pray some more. Pray for the person God will lead you to. Pray very specifically about what you seek in a godly woman. My husband and I were both divorced and praying to be led to someone when we found each other. We happened to be old friends through our church, so don't give up hope. Your motives for going to church are the right ones, and God will honor that.
There are also Christian dating services you could try, but I don't know much about them.
2006-11-02 09:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Teddie M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
About 4 years ago my husband came up to me while I was getting off my motorcycle and said "girls who ride motorcycles are cool." Yeah, I thought it was pretty cheesy too, but it turned out we lived in the same apartment complex, and so we had a fair amount of bumping into each other before we started dating - of course this was in college apartments while I was attending a Christian University so the kind of guys I wanted to date were all around me.
Does your denomination not have singles activities? I mean mine is pretty gun-ho about getting us to date within the faith, there was dances and weekly activities, and even congregations just for young single adults.
I don't know, maybe you can get the word out for a weekly bible study/fun activity that you can organize for the single folks where you live.
Good luck, keep praying, and in the meantime don't let it get you down - even before you are a husband and father, there are so many incredible ways you can contribute to the world.
2006-11-02 09:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm right there with you buddy except I'm looking for a Christian guy. Keep praying about it, He'll show you the person He created to be your soul mate. A couple of my friends just found out through some fulfilled prophesies that they are soul mates. You just have to be patient. He'll usually surprise you and tell you who your soul mate is when you totally aren't expecting it and it may be the last person you expect. You may already know your soul mate and just not know it.
2006-11-02 09:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mud 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many areas you'll be able to meet believers; Bible tuition, unique services, loved ones services, even out on this planet! I met my spouse on-line! But we do good once we pick a precise believer and now not an unbeliever. Huge disorders and divorces can come up from looking to combine Satan with God.
2016-09-01 06:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by likins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We weren't active Christians when we met and married. It was 12 years before we joined the church. My advice is stop looking. It will happen when God wants it to.
2006-11-02 09:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by John r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your church has hospitality after the mass than go and meet people and hang out. Otherwise check and see if anyone church, either yours or one in the area, has a group for single or divorced people. There should be one someplace for chrisitans. Those groups plan nice events.
2006-11-02 09:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Check out your local Christian singles groups. Even those of other denominations. You never know! My best friend met her husband in a Presbyterian singles group. She's Catholic. He ended up converting.
2006-11-02 09:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Met her in the single's group at church. Start there.
2006-11-02 09:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Pearly Gator 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋