I've seen this guy a few times and during our last date I felt he was moving the conversation toward a discussion about "us" and maybe what our status is (exclusive or not, etc.). This kind of scared me so I quickly moved the conversation away from that and he totally knew I was avoiding the topic. Since then I asked him out for lunch and some "quick fun," and he said he couldn't make it, that he'd want more time with me than that, but that he hopes we can get together soon. But he didn't suggest another time to get together and he's going away for the weekend. I'm wondering if he's withdrawing or if I'm just being hypervigilant. PS this was the first time I asked him out, he's always done the asking up until now
2006-11-02 09:27:58 · 14 answers · asked by wanderingsoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If "quick fun" means sex you made a huge mistake.
2006-11-02 09:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the conversation was to do with being exclusive, then this guy obviously likes you a lot. For you to suggest having something casual is something that he doesn't want.
He wants to spend more time with you , and I guess make it more serious than it already is. Your lack of interest in this area may upset him, so I think you should consider where you want to see this relationship with him is going.
2006-11-02 17:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Strange1am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is recoverable but only if the tiptoeing stops! It's too soon to tell if he's withdrawing because you only asked him out once. Try again after the weekend and if he keeps dodging you, MAKE him own up to what's on his mind and talk this out. Don't let him keep any misconceptions about why you avoided the subject.
2006-11-02 17:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by James L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's thinking about getting a little bit more serious, and that some "quick fun" isn't everything in a relationship. Maybe he wants to slow down?
2006-11-02 17:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels your hesitation. You'll be surprised, guys are smart little creators once all the asshole stuff is outta the way. He senses that you are as in to him as he is to you. If it's one thing guys hate, its REJECTION. Especially if he is the one who is persuing you. Let him know what you are really down for (ie freinds with benifits, exclusive relationship, messing around only etc).
2006-11-02 17:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. It seems like he wants more in the relationship and you came off like all you're looking for is a good time man. You blocked him and he probably thinks since you dodged the "us" topic that you're seeing other people.
2006-11-02 17:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by mythoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personal. Just let him come to you when he is ready. Since you are not exclusive yet, take this opportunity to see what else is out there (just in case, your guy got cold feet.) Hopefully, he will have gotten a grip.
2006-11-02 17:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is withdrawing and you are being hypervigilant.
2006-11-02 17:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't feel comfortable talking about that then you should talk to him because if you don't it'll keep going the way its going.
2006-11-02 17:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEING A GUY MY SELF I THINK HE'S A LITTLE HURT AND NEEDS TO BE TALKED TO AT LEAST THATS HOW ID FELL
TAKE A WALK WITH HIM ONE NIGHT AND JUST TALK
2006-11-02 17:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by FRANKIE Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋